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GODDESSES IN EVERY WOMAN

Monday, February 22nd, 2010 by admin

4332556145_09faf62b34_mEven though I have been running rawmom for quite a while behind the scenes already, now that I am officially the owner, it feels like a thrilling but daring adventure, and I feel excited and nervous! I do not consider myself a business woman. I identify with one role, my calling, being a mom. However, I’ve have heard that people born under my sign in both the Western and Chinese horoscopes make good leaders and can lead successful enterprises, and as my children are growing up, it’s the perfect time for me to gradually transition back out into the world…I’d like to believe I can learn what I need to, and attract people to help me. If am to grow to the corners of my potential as a fully realised woman, as well as facilitate my mission to make a difference, I must have courage. I feel alot of changes coming…it started with changing my name from Shannon to Shakaya, and even endowing myself with a second name, one of the elements, Breeze. I didn’t consciously choose these names, they seemed to just find me.

The archetypal images of the Goddess come to mind. When I interviewed Susun Weed for WISH, I asked her which Goddess archetype she most identified with and she said for a long time it was Artemis, autonomous Goddess of the Hunt, Nature, Birth, a protector plants and animals and a Super Sexy Virgin who never bowed to the rule of any man. Powerful! I have always been fascinated by Goddess archetypes since reading ‘Goddesses in Every Woman’ when I was in my 20’s and later work by Caroline Myss. Here are some of the archetypes as described by Myss whom I have identified with- perhaps you will see yourself in some of these- and some others whom I feel the desire to connect more deeply with so as to draw from their well for my growth and expansion that I feel is needed now:

HERA: The Companion

This stereotype is loyal, tenacious and unselfish in their service to a more authoritive figure. In this relationship she provides the emotional and practical support to enable her partner to concentrate on his mission. This was long considered the traditional role of the wife. Hera is the Goddess of marriage and birth.

Sacred Animals: Her beautiful big eyes led her to be linked with cows, and lions.

Sacred Birds: Peacocks, cuckoo’s and ducks.

Sacred Plants: Apples of immortality, Gaia gave her a garden of these golden fruit as a wedding present. The pomegranates which is a symbolism of marriage. Iris, oranges and willow are also linked to the Queen of the Greek Gods.

Strengths: Leadership and a loyal wife. Despite her husbands affairs she stays with him and rules by his side.

Weaknesses: Vindictiveness, vanity and jealousy.

She often misused her position and powers to punish the Zeus’s lovers. Her retribution was also extended to the women’s children. When Antigone boasted that her hair was more beautiful than Hera, the Goddess became so enraged that she transformed the long locks of hair into snakes.

DEMETER: The Mother

The Earth Goddess and Mother Archetype is a life-giver and the source of nurturing, devotion, patience and unconditional love. The ability to forgive and provide for her children and put them before herself is the essence of a good mother.

Sacred Animals: Pigs. Snakes were symbols of this Goddess as her chariot was pulled by two winged serpents.

Sacred Birds: The screech owl.

Sacred Plants: In addition to the grains wheat and barley the penny royal, a type of mint and the poppy were sacred to this Goddess. The mint was part of a drink consumed at her temple in Eleusis where her priestesses wore poppies as her emblem. The chaste tree, frankincense, myrrh and sunflowers are also linked to this Goddess.

Strengths: Loving mother, persistence and empathic.

Weaknesses: Depression, lived her life through her daughter.

ATHENA: The Warrior

This Archetype represents physical strength, and the ability to protect and fight for your rights and those of others. Natural Teacher.

Sacred animals: Snakes form part of her famous statue.

Sacred birds: The owl is linked with Athena the Greek Goddess as it represents wisdom and watchfulness.

Sacred plants: Mulberry, oak and olive trees.

Strengths: Rational, intelligent, a powerful defender and arbitrator.

Weaknesses: Too ruled by her head and out of touch with her emotions and femine side. Unapproachable and lacking in compassion.

HESTIA: The Nun

The Nun is characterized by her intense devotion and dedication to her path. Their work requires great focus and includes not only spiritual paths but artistic and business pursuits. HESTIA is the domestic Goddess of the hearth domesticity, hospitality and family life.

Never shown in human form, she was usually symbolized by a sacred flame or a circle which represented the hearth fire.

Sacred Animals: Cows

Strengths: Modesty, welcoming, pacifying and dedication to her job.

Weaknesses: Self-sacrificing and unsociable.

APHRODITE: The Lover

Represents passion and selfless devotion to another person. It also extends to the things that make our hearts sing, like music art or nature. The Greek Goddess Aphrodite was the Goddess of love and beauty.

Sacred Animals: Dolphins.

Sacred Birds: Doves.

Sacred Plants: Wood anemones, apples, myrrh, quince, roses and lime trees.

Strengths: The ability to make men fall in love with her.

Weaknesses: She was Vain, bad tempered, jealous and unfaithful.

PERSEPHONE: The Maiden

The Maiden is one of your Archetypes if you are life still in touch with your childhood intuition and fantasies and have used these to fulfill your dreams. Hence you can still have this archetype at any time of life. PERSEPHONE is the Goddess of the underworld and goddess of spring and rebirth. The Maiden reminds you to take care of the magical child that lies within us all.

Sacred Animal: Bats

Sacred Plants: Grain, lily of the valley, spring flowers and pomegranates.

Strengths: Able to compromise, adaptable.

Weaknesses: Not able to escape the influence of an over protective mother. Torn by her loyalties she tries to please everybody.

There are other goddesses besides the Greek ones listed here, as well as Celtic, Egyptian, Nordic and Roman goddesses, plus fertility goddesses, moon and sun goddesses, and seasonal goddesses.

wish-banner-prIt’s helpful to dive into the waters of our sub-conscious to see our patterns clearer and examine them so they aren’t controlling us. I think it was Anthony Robbins who said an unexamined life is not worth living and Byron Katie says that to engage in inquiry brings us emotional freedom.

I hope you enjoy seeing which goddess archetype you have identified with. And if you want to see some modern day Goddesses, women who are making a difference in the world today, and even be able to listen in to carefully sculpted interviews with them about the contemporary issues of us Raw Mama Goddesses and women around the world, sign up here www.wishsummit.com for your free admission to this inspiring event!

marianne_williamson_picTomorrow I have the honour of interviewing Marianne Williamson for WISH.This is kind of a miracle to me as through her work she is the one who has mentored me most throughout the years since I lost my mom at 16. Her words of wisdom have always brought meaning and solidness to my life. I’ll leave you now with a few of my favourites, In-Joy! Shakaya

TEARS CAN BRING TREMENDOUS GIFTS- THEY CAN MELT THE WALLS AROUND YOUR HEART

GOD’S PLAN WORKS. YOURS DOESN’T. (LOL)

WE MUST BE FREE TO HAVE A DISPUTE OR EVERYONE IS HIDING.

IF YOUR’RE DEPRESSED THEN ON SOME LEVEL YOU KNOW YOU AREN’T DOING WHAT YOU CAME HERE TO DO.

LOVE ISN’T LOVE UNTIL IT’S UNCONDITIONAL.

FAITH ISN’T BLIND- IT’S VISIONARY.

LEARN TO TRUST THE POWER THAT HOLDS THE GALAXIES TOGETHER.

OUR WALLS ARE OUR WOUNDS.

THE PAST IS MERELY THOUGHTS. ALL THAT IS REAL IS THE LOVE WE GIVE AND RECEIVE- ALL ELSE IS ILLUSSION.

WHEN YOU MEET ANYONE IT IS A HOLY ENCOUNTER- YOU WILL SEE THEM AS YOU SEE YOURSELF.

WHEN WE THINK IN TERMS OF COMPETITION, STRUGGLE, LIMITATIONS WE ARE THINKING UNNATRUALLY.

LOVE IS WHAT WE ARE BORN WITH – FEAR IS WHAT WE LEARNED HERE.

MEANING DOESN’T LIE IN THINGS- MEANING LIES IN US.

WE LOVE THINGS THAT CANNOT LOVE US BACK.

WHAT IS NOT LOVE IS A CALL FOR LOVE.

THINK OF THE NEWS AS HUMANITY’S PRAYER LIST.

HOW WE REACT TO SITUATIONS AFFECTS OUR POWER TO TRANSFORM THEM.

THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A DISAGREEMENT AND AN ARGUMENT.

FORGET THE IDEA THAT GOD HAS MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO THAN THINK ABOUT YOU. YOU WILL KNOW THAT TO GOD YOU ARE EVERYTHING WHEN GOD IS EVERYTHING TO YOU.

EVEN IF SOMEONE DOESN’T LIKE YOU THEY LOVE YOU WHETHER THEY KNOW IT OR NOT.

WE ARE PLACED HERE ON EARTH TO LOVE EACH OTHER’S PAIN AWAY.

WE LIVE IN A HOLGRAPHIC UNIVERSE WHICH MEANS THAT CONTAINED IN EVERY PIECE IS THE WHOLE AND VICE VERSA THEREFORE A HEALING IN ANY ONE OF US HELPS TO HEAL US ALL.

Holidays are over, THE DAYLIGHT DIET is On- My Way!

Tuesday, January 5th, 2010 by admin

shannon-dave-wolfeWow! The first week in January of 2010. Into the New Year we go! Happy Happy Joy Joy! Holiday time can be very busy and sleep and dietary concerns are not my top priorities between all the raw parties and events, polar bear dips and barefoot hikes in the snow, night skating, tobogganing, visiting old friends and other festivities which included TV appearances, I really let things slip a bit. I am rather strict and disciplined 90% of the time, my diet is 90% raw, and come to think of it, my marks in school were that too… I leave a good 10 % for total spontaneity and adventure. Now it’s time to get back on track! I looooove the fresh start feeling of a clean slate before me to create upon, and I do make resolutions in the form of setting intentions. Speaking of which, I am still loving the Daylight Diet which I started in November that I promised to let everyone know how I am progressing. I have such a long way to go, yet I am encouraged by my progress already. I am making baby-steps and if I didn’t love and honour myself so much, I would think I was pathetic actually because of how slow I am going! Hahaha.

There are 3 stages to the Daylight Diet, and although I have accomplished several things since I started it, I must admit I am only at stage 0.5. That’s right, I’m not even at stage 1 yet! Stage one is where you eat only when it is daylight- simply stop eating after sundown. I have not been able to do that exactly, however, I have stopped eating after dinner, which is usually around 6 or 7pm now. This is not ideal, and not what the book recommends at all, yet for me who usually would eat my dinner around 9 or 10 pm, plus have a big snack 2 or 3 hours later, this is a BIG improvement for me and definitely a step in the right direction.

Just doing this has not been easy because I usually do not eat at all in the day but Paul says unless you eat enough nourishment in the day, you will be hungry at night and it will be very difficult not to eat late. Since going raw 8 years ago, I have pretty much been drinking only water until noon, having either a green juice or green smoothie around 1 or 2pm, and then just nibbling with the kids when I serve their dinner at 6pm, and not really eating mine until the house is all quiet around 9 pm.

shannon-boys-xmastreeThe Daylight Diet explains clearly why anyone who wishes to improve their health would do better to eat the biggest meal earlier in the day and completely cease eating after sundown. So I am getting closer to this goal. I have started the habit of making my green juice or smoothie earlier, around 10am, and although I am not totally consistent with this yet, I am getting there. I am also eating something in the afternoon to get some nourishment in so I won’t be hungry after my next and final meal at dinner. I find eating in the day really different for me being used to not stopping for lunch, and just being very productive. I now realise there is just no point keeping a beautiful home and making healthy meals for my family and working on my rawmom books and projects for my world-family if I am not taking time to properly nourish myself.

So, I am sitting down in the middle of the day, and making a small and beautiful meal of simple fare like raw soup with homemade flax crackers I make with my green juice pulp and spices, or avocado and cucumber with dulse or zucchini pasta with tomatoes and olives- just reeeeally simple and quick meals which I can enjoy in silence- just like I used to love to do at night- I find I digest food so much better when I eat very slowly and peacefully, almost meditatively. To enhance the experience and ground me in this new ritual, I like to light a candle and either eat outside, or at least sit by the window and eat watching the birds and chipmunks play in the beautiful snow. Oh, and I have also started using chopsticks at every meal which I adore! That slows me down too, and I find food actually tastes better off of wood instead of cutlery. I find myself blessing each bite and feeling the love that is all around which surrounds me, and I may only spend about 15 or 20 minutes, yet, I feel soothed and satisfied on all levels after this little meal.

I have to admit, most nights after dinner, I still find myself wanting to eat and so I have been doing a couple of things which have been helpful. One thing is to make a cup of hot lemon water or ginger tea, or herbal infusion or even an elixir based on Daniel Vitalis’ work. I make one with milk thistle seeds which is great for the liver, and it tastes so delicious!! I’ll share all about this in an upcoming post so you see how easy and amazing doing this is. I have occasionally been enjoying either a ruby red grapefruit, or a pomegranate late at night, which isn’t ideal, but it’s a treat. I love both because they keep my hands busy and I love working for my food- that satiates me more somehow when it isn’t so instant. So, although this is cheating a bit, it is so much better than what I would normally do making chocolate pudding or raw brownies or walnuts with braggs and garlic and cayenne pepper, or anyone of a number of raw goodies I would normally make late at night.

I am also working on breaking the habit of late night stimulation from computer work or tv. My habit is usually to work until at least midnight or 1, and then relax in front of the tv folding laundry watching a movie while planning the next day’s menus and errands and work . I am pretty sure doing that makes me want to eat more too, so I am turning the computer off by 9 or 10 most nights and heading upstairs to read. I still stay up pretty late, but I am turning in around midnight or 1am, not the usual 3 or 4am… so for me this is great progress, and just the beginning!

arcticshannonIt’s a lot of habits I still wish to change… and it isn’t that I didn’t realise this before, its just that I was fooling myself into thinking if I was raw that I could get away with all this late eating and lack of sleep. I feel that as challenging as this is for me to make these changes, that the results will be worth it. I am already noticing that I am waking up more refreshed. And there is a slight euphoria that I cannot totally understand or describe… a physical sense in my body that something HUGE and exciting is happening. I just feeeeeel like my body is happier. And will continue to become happier still as I continue to progress through the stages of the Daylight Diet. Before I can move on to stage one or two or three, I need to really accomplish maintaining my food intake during the day and taper my last meal back from 6 pm to 5 pm before it gets dark.

Having goals and setting intentions and knowing why I am passionately striving to create myself anew every year is an adventure. I figure I can either pay with a bit of discipline now, or regret later! How about YOU, my lovelies? What one habit, if you changed, would change your whole life for the better? Think about it, set your intentions around it, and if you care to share, I’d love to support you. xo

To read more about Paul Nison’s The Daylight Diet, go here…

The Yoga of Breastfeeding

Saturday, December 12th, 2009 by Jamie Abrams

I have had a few strange, but often curious looks from people when I have mentioned the topic for this TM column. Understandably so. I don’t think many people see the deeper connection between yoga and breastfeeding or that many people associate a successful breastfeeding relationship with having a supple, strong body and peaceful mind.

jamie-happy-breastfeedingEven though I was in reasonable shape when my breastfeeding career began, I was utterly surprised by how physically taxing breastfeeding could be on my muscles. In the early days, when my babe seemed to suckle for what felt like hours on end, I would wind up with achy arms, shoulders and back. My legs would feel restless like I had just been sat on an aeroplane for 12 hours without moving. I laugh now at my initial weakness of body.

Not only was I tackling the purely physical side of nourishing my buttercup, I was grappling with my cerebral thoughts. During those long feeds or those times when I felt like all I did was have my ta-ta’s hanging out all day, my mind would alternate between the ecstatic bliss of what I was doing and the monotony of it all.

Even with my many years of familiarity with meditating and yogic practices of softness and mindfulness, I still struggled with the monkey living in my mind. I was/am still working at entering my own silent abyss with ease. The stillness of breastfeeding could rattle up my monkey, causing me to feel trapped or like I was being held hostage. When it got all too much for me I couldn’t transport myself out with mind-dulling TV, and my head generally was too full of fogginess to comprehend a good book. My self-love and yogic practices were being put fully to the test! [Personal note: I do not feel that self-love and yogic practices can be separated - rather they are a mutually exclusive entity.] While I can’t speak for every lactating mama, I can only assume every mom has had instances during nursing that weren’t all filled with creamy hues and rosiness.

Fortunately, Mother Nature designed us perfectly to, by and large, experience enormous ripples of satisfaction and love while we nourish our cherubs. While it could be very easy to blame my modern western lifestyle for any short-comings and for all the counter-intuitive messages it gives me every day about raising my child, I would rather not squirt my precious breastmilk on the antagonist. Instead, I tried (I use that word because, after all, I am human, too!) to tap into that peaceful space that dwells within me at all times and not to allow myself to be totally consumed by the guilt of feeling bored or wondering when my nursling would ever release my breast.

jamie-yoga-1For me this is where the ability to utilize yogic thinking truly ups the anti. My interpretation of the meaning of yogic thinking is just that it is another phrase for positive thinking and affirmations: believing in something greater, the law of attraction, meditation, mantra japa etc. Basically, if I remain calm, allow positivity to abound, it is the natural order of the Universe to sort the rest of it out. If I was really in a mental tizzy it is paramount for me to find a mantra to soothe my soul and begin deep yogic breathing. This would eventually bring me back to a euphoric equilibrium.

Of course, I can’t possibly leave out the importance of proper breathing or yogic breathing on my triumphant breastfeeding passage. Like many women in modern society, I had never seen a baby breastfeed (although I was breastfed) and had very little practical knowledge. Everything I knew about breastfeeding was theoretical from books. Although I was aware that I might have a slight disadvantage for not having practical familiarity, it wasn’t enough to prevent me from doing everything humanly possible to make my breastfeeding relationship with my angel work.

In the first weeks after birth I battled to get a proper latch-on. My nipples were severely cracked. I cried at nearly every nursing session. But in my heart I knew I had to march forward – for me there was NO other way to feed my baby. While my midwives and my LLL leader patiently helped us, I would begin deep three-part breathing, fully oxygenating my body, and then I would get on with it. As with any relationship, there is ebb and flow, so later when things became awkward due to teething, toddler titty twirling, tot boobie gymnastics or my own restlessness, I would call in the goddess of yogini breathing to get me through.

Not only had yoga been a crutch for me pre-pregnancy and during my son’s birth, but it helped me create a magical breastfeeding bond between us. You don’t have to have years of experience on a yoga mat to benefit from its healing powers, just a little faith and motivation. I also think it is worth mentioning that it does not matter where you are in the spectrum of life - now is as good as any time to breathe more deeply and realign your body and mind. So lactating or not, mama or papa, old or young, the following yoga postures (asanas), yogic affirmations (mantras) and yogic breathing (pranayamas) will manifest a more easeful body, peaceful mind and blissful life. While I can’t make any guarantees, you don’t have anything to lose unless you call spontaneous laughter a side-effect.

Yoga asanas to nurse a woman’s body into a full-time lactating queen:

  • Eagle (Garudasana – just the arm position)
  • Cow Face (Gormukhasana)
  • Wide Legged Forward Bend – variation w/ hand interlaced behind back and moving towards head (Prasarita Padottanasana)
  • Cat-Cow, Cobra (Bhujangasana)
  • Camel* (Ustrasana)
  • Fish (Matsyasana)
  • Downward-Facing Dog (Ardho Mukha Svanasana)
  • Thread the Needle, Rag Doll, Sun Salutations (Surya Namaskar)
  • Half Locust – Superhero variation (Ardha Shalabhasana)

As with any yoga postures, proceed with care, listen to your body, and if you are a complete newbie seek the advice of a qualified yoga instructor. *Camel ~ the beginner’s variation ~ is suitable for new mamas. Wait until at least six months postpartum to enjoy the full pose (hands to feet) to ensure your uterus has returned to its pre-pregnancy position. [Psst…go to www.yogajournal.com most of the above poses are pictured and thoroughly explained.]

Yoga mantras (affirmations) to quiet your inner-monkey:

  • ~ I am at peace with myself and my surroundings.
  • ~ I breathe in the serenity of my beauty.
  • ~ I am peace (use any descriptive word such as love, happy, exuberant etc.).
  • ~ Om Shanti
  • ~ Om Tat Sat
  • ~ Om Mani Padme Hum

There are a boundless number of mantras/affirmations that can be used to transmute the negative mind-chatter. They all don’t have to be cheesy and new-agey either! The key is to use one that feels delightful to your soul and just keep repeating it (in your mind or vocally – your darling will love to hear such positive vibrations exiting your mouth). Eventually, the constructive thoughts will prevail!

Yogic Breathing ~ Pranayama:

Hands down, my favourite pranayama is deep three-part breathing. From this base of expansive breathing all other breathing techniques become possible and it allows your body to fully unfold in any yoga asana. Safety note: yogic breathing should never be forced or laboured. If at any time you feel shortness of breath, dizzy or faint, discontinue the practice and resume your normal breathing.

Start by sitting in a comfortable position – any position that allows your spine to be long and expanded (you can lay supine on the floor). Place your right hand on to your abdomen and your left hand on to your chest. All exhalations and inhalations happen through the nose. Begin by inhaling through your nose, drawing the breath down to your belly. You should feel your right hand expanding out as the air presses the abdomen out. Continue to draw the breath up through the diaphragm into the lungs and then into the chest/heart. You should now feel your chest expanding into your left hand. Continue the breath up into your collar bones and throat. Now, slowly exhale through your nose in reverse order – chest, lungs, diaphragm, and abdomen. As you exhale you should first feel your left hand soften on your heart and your right hand on your abdomen. With each inhalation you are working to expand and each exhalation naturally contract and relax. Eventually each one of these parts will flow one into the next making it a seamless breath. Continue breathing wholly and completely.

This should be our natural breathing pattern, but stress and modern life have shifted us into shallow chest-breathers. If this three-part breath is practiced often enough it will eventually become your natural breathing rhythm. If you are lacking in inspiration watch any sleeping baby to see how they entirely employ their full lung capacity.

I extend a special kudos to every goddess mama who embarks on a yoga journey at such a precious time in her life. Conceiving, birthing, breastfeeding and raising aware kiddies is a monumental task and by inviting yoga into your family’s life you are coming one step closer to relishing more moments of infinite bliss.

(This article was originally published in The Mother < www.themothermagazine.co.uk > Magazine issue 37.)
If you truly want to see yogini breastfeeding in action follow the link to watch a one minute video ~ this is not to be missed and most likely the best minute you’ll spend all week!!

http://tinyurl.com/ykweute

Jamie can also be found on www.RawYogaTeacher.com .

Like Mother, Like Daughter. . .

Friday, October 30th, 2009 by admin

by Karen Schachter

bakingWe moms have a tough path to walk as we help our daughters navigate the sometimes choppy waters of growing up girl.  It’s our job to protect our children and do our best to keep them safe and healthy, yet we also have to allow them to grow, stretch and learn from their own mistakes. It’s a fine line between letting them be who they are and wanting to “tweak” them just a little bit so they don’t suffer from the same mistakes or struggles that we did.

When it comes to healthy eating and a positive body image, this fine line can feel fragile and confusing, particularly if you struggle with these issues yourself.

When I teach workshops or work individually with moms, I am always asked some of the same questions: Should I let my kids have desert every day? How do I deal with their love of sweets?  How can I help her stop eating when she’s not hungry anymore?  How can I help her lose weight without making her feel bad about her body?  How can I help her feel good about her body, no matter what its size? How can I help her feel good about herself and treat herself with respect?

Although I can give concrete “answers” to many of these questions, the truth is, there is no one “right” answer that works for everyone, all the time. There is no “magic bullet” to self-esteem, to body confidence, to self-care, and to inspiring good health in our daughter.

However, there is one piece of the puzzle that is so important, one KEY asset that is SO valuable, and one action that IS within our control…that is more powerful than anything we can say or anything we can feed them.

YOU.

As her mom, the only thing you really have control over (especially as she gets older) is who YOU are BEING and how YOU are negotiating your own health, your own eating, your own body image and your own self –esteem.  Are you embodying the actions and feelings that you want her to learn?

Here’s a little food for thought to get you going:

  • Next time you notice yourself betwixt and between about an eating habit of your daughter’s, go ahead and check in with yourself: Is there something about that behavior that reminds you of one of your own struggles? (Go ahead and address it in YOURSELF first).
  • Imagine that your daughter develops a delicious, nourishing and healthy relationship to food, eating and her body – what will that look like?  Go ahead and try out some of those self-nourishing actions for YOURSELF.
  • What if food,  eating and body image weren’t a concern, for you or for your daughter?  What if you had true freedom and peace with these things?  What would your energy and attention be focused on instead? (Go ahead and give it a try).

Here’s the thing:  Our daughters learn how to live in their bodies and care for themselves with food and in their lives from MANY sources, including the media, their peers, their families, and from all the women in their lives.  

I am on a mission – and I invite you to join me – to help change the “face” of what the next generation of girls are learning – and I believe we must first BE THE CHANGE we wish to see in them.   (When moms set their minds to something, there is no telling what could happen…)


*** Karen Schachter is a licensed clinical social worker, certified health counselor, and founder of “Dishing With Your Daughter ,” which offers a variety of programs for girls and women.   As a psychology of eating expert, Karen is especially passionate about helping the next generation of girls experience nourishment, peace and deliciousness in food, eating and their bodies so they can live a healthy, authentic life. Enough of the angst and struggle!  Karen believes in the value of the mom-daughter relationship as a powerful vehicle for creating this change.

Ask *Raw Mom*. . . Your questions.

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009 by admin

Each Wednesday we will be answering questions from our readers. If you have a question for *Raw Mom* send it to Ask *Raw Mom*

Q: Hi ladies,

I have been interested in your new dessert book and the lunchbox book, but because I am overseas things like coconut meat and the variety of fresh berries and interesting fruits is limited. Not to mention cacao butter costs the bomb - are many of your recipes dependent on exotic foods?  ( I would have a minimal to moderate amount of superfoodage going on )

In Gratitude,
Julia

A: Hi Julia,

cacaoThe HEALTHY LUNCHBOX recipe book contains no hard to find or exotic ingredients; even the cacao recipes call for the substitution of carob if cacao isn’t an option. Where coconut water is used, the recipe mentions and does just as well with plain water or nut mylk, so its really interchangeable, as all good, user-friendly recipes are.
Chia seeds and goji berries show up a couple times, but they are not difficult to find anymore, and of all the superfoods, I feel they are mostly economical because a little goes a long way.  Goji berries are costly, however, so raisins, currants or other dried fruits acan be substituted if need be.

I appreciate the whole Superfood movement and recognize its value, yet as a mom I mostly relate to the struggle moms have just getting real food into their children… so I have kept it all pretty real.  The 2 recipes that have jicima, which is a root vegetable that tastes between a potato and an apple, and the few that contain coconut buttter (olive oil would work too) are kind of nice and refreshing because I feel and made the statement in the opening of the book that it is good to try new things, and be open.  Good nutrition almost depends on it.

So its mostly common ingredients with a few surprises thrown in to keep it interesting.
I very much hope you will enjoy it!

Blissings,
~Shakaya
Shannon Shakaya Breeze Leone

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Q: Dear Raw Mom,

1. How do you transition your child(ren) from SAD to raw?

2. How long did it take to get them to eat healthy?

3. How do you prepare your child(ren) to deal with social situations, such
as birthday parties, where there will be lots of unhealthy SAD food there?

A: It’s all in the DOING!

It starts with the AWARENESS of what is possible…of the importance of proper nutrition on our children’s young bodies, minds and spirit.
I personally recommend ppl start by

  • REMOVE ALL JUNKFOOD from the diet i.e. refined sugar and flour use fruit, honey and other natural sweeteners and create or buy natural and less processed treats.
  • ADD IN GREEN SMOOTHIES daily- read GREEN FOR LIFE.
  • GO RAW ALL DAY UNTIL DINNER.

angelapastaFill up in the day with fresh fruit, veggies and dips, raw soups and flax crackers, raw trail mixes, raw puddings and cereals, salads and garden burgers and zucchini pasta and cabbage burritos and manna bread avocado, tomato, lettuce, cucumber sandwiches or peanut butter/almond/cashew butter with banana.

Green Smoothies and/or Green Juices and/or Nut milks and/or Herbal Teas, with superfoods and supplements such as SPIRULINA/HEMP SEEDS/CHIA SEEDS/BEE POLLEN~ all great protein sources.

Then serve whatever is comforting and wholesome for dinner: soups, stews, steamed veggies, non-gluten grains such as MILLET, QUINOA, AMARANTH, BUCKWHEAT, RICE

Here is where you would have your meat or fish or other cooked foods.

The key here is HEALTH.

HOWEVER long it takes to do this, which could be as fast and quick as you like, its up to each family to go at their own pace.

At social events, bring fruit platters and raw desserts, and big salads and fill-up ahead of time with green smoothies and bring trail mix for the car; and then let go a bit and enjoy the festivities.  My rule is no meat, no junk food.  If they want to try something, I let my kids now, (when they were younger than 9 I just created their plates with the best choices I could find - now that they are 10 and 11, they do this themselves)
And the next day, we are raw and simple and ‘detoxing’ so its all good!

I hope this helps!
Just follow your heart and for some inspiration check out my HEALTHY LUNCHBOX e-book and/or my DVD RAISING CHILDREN RAISES US at the rawmom.com site

Blissings,
xoxoxShakaya

Choices. . .

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009 by admin

by Mary Delasantos
strawberriesYesterday I picked up my daughter, Kim, and granddaughter Hannah, and brought them over to our house for a visit.  Just like any other grandma (or mom), my first thought was that they must need to eat; so on the way to our house we stopped at the grocery store to pick up a few things. We went to the produce department first and Hannah picked out a pint of bright red strawberries for her snack. As we browsed the rest of the store she held on to her treat.  Later when it was our turn at the cash register Hannah would not release the package and protected it as if her life depended upon it.  The cashier had to walk around to the cart where Hannah was sitting so she could scan the price label.

When we got to the house, Kim washed and sliced about half of the strawberries for Hannah.  Hannah was completely enjoying her brightly colored, sweet and juicy snack until Kim and I joined her at the kitchen counter with our snacks.  I offered Kim tortilla chips to go with some very yummy fresh made salsa that Dan had whipped up a few minutes earlier and I had a handful of raw sundried spiced olives. As soon as we sat down Hannah pushed away the strawberries and wanted some of Kim’s chips.  We told her that she could have a chip after she finished all of her strawberries.  Two year old Hannah retrieved her bowl and continued eating.  When Hannah took her last slice of strawberry she slipped off her stool and walked away having forgotten all about the chips.

This made me think about the way most of us eat.  We have tendencies to go for the less nutritious processed foods such as chips and crackers because they are so readily available to us.  If we learn to keep the fresh and nutritious items in our line of site we too, just as Hannah did, will truly enjoy those choices as well.  And, we will feel better for making those choices both mentally and physically.

Happy Eating!

Mary Delasantos
voiceofthevegan.com

Take it easy….

Monday, October 26th, 2009 by admin

by Kemi Nekvapil
As mothers we are very blessed to be able to take on the role as healers in our families. Sometimes this means holding our children when they are hurt, physically or emotionally. Sometimes it means holding ourselves and our partners in the same circumstances.
But there is also the role of healer in the food we choose to nourish our families with.
If like me you are part of the green smoothie revolution, and you are enjoying the pure nectar on a regular basis, you know how it makes you feel.

What if, though, your family is not joining you?

greensmoothieMy husband Emrys may even love them more than me. My daughter Ella, will have a whole blender full, if you turn your back, your breakfast is gone!
My son Benji started to be a little ‘something’ about the texture of his drinks. He would gobble down any variety of freshly juiced fruit and veg, but when it came to a green smoothie he would always try, and sometimes ask for a cup of it, but would never really have any.

So I kept making them, as did my husband. Three of us were drinking but one was not. I was not too worried because I thought “he eats such great food and if he does not get into green smoothies, the world would not end, would it?”
And then one day it happened!

Ella was ill and she did not have an appetite all day, so later on I asked her if she wanted a little soup or a green smoothie, she choose the smoothie. I then had the idea of having a smoothie soup and bingo, I thought “I will add more texture!’’
soup_broccoliSo Benji and Ella tucked into their green smoothie soups with finely chopped fruit salad on top.
Benji  then looked and me and said ‘’Mum, can I have some more please?’’ Benji had three helpings of soup!

It made me realise that we can have the knowledge to nourish and heal our families. But if we can take it easy, be patient, and offer life-giving foods, then they can heal themselves .

Making Love in the Kitchen!

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009 by admin

by Jody Power

I would like to share with you one of my favorite blogs, well, obviously besides the Raw Mom and Raw Diva’s sites, it’s called Making Love in the Kitchen.  It is a blog by Meghan Telpner, who is a certified nutritionist and holistic lifestyle consultant.  Her blog is very informative, but don’t worry it is definitely not dry – I’m hoping you already figured this out based on the blog name.  Whatever subject Meghan decides to tackle she does it in a fun, entertaining and sometimes quirky manner, which will keep you coming back for more! 

For you transitioning mom’s and dad’s out there she also has a wealth of great recipes which are focused on whole food goodness which you’ll want to check out and add to your recipe arsenal to slowly wean your kids off that processed food.  For you raw mom’s and dad’s you’ll still find a wealth of information and some raw recipes.

Just so you can get to know Meghan a little bit better below is the interview she agreed to do for us.

JP: What lead you to become a certified nutritionist and holistic lifestyle consultant?

MT: Like many people in this field, I had encountered a personal health challenge that was not being resolved by conventional medicine. After university, I went to travel in Africa where I became quite ill. I came back from that trip, began a career in advertising, all the while suffering terribly from digestive dis-ease. Going from doctor to doctor, I was desperate to find a solution. Three and a half-years and 19 doctors later, I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. Rather than taking the conventional approach (surgery and medication) I chose a completely holistic approach that included acupuncture, yoga, meditation, herbs and natural, clean, whole foods. In a relatively short time, I was essentially healed of the symptoms that had plagued me for all those years and so inspired that I decided to go back to school to study nutrition. Three years later, I remain 100% symptom-free from an ‘incurable’ disease, and now work to inspire others that they too can take control of their health and empower them to heal through easy, simple and health supportive eating and living.

JP: When you were trying to heal yourself what made you decide to go the holistic route?

MT: The doctors hadn’t done much for me by that point, aside from make me feel fairly foolish for being so persistent. My mother has always been a big proponent of taking responsibility for our own health, so I suppose that was ingrained in me. The only options the doctor gave me were medicines that would likely have to take the rest of my life with the possibility of having a section of my intestines removed. The acupuncturist I met said that he could help me put the disease in remission. Of all the ‘experts’ I sought, he was the only person who gave me confidence that this was not a life sentence. The decision, at that point, was pretty easy.

JP: How do you ensure you maintain a balanced lifestyle when things get hectic?

MT: This is an increasing challenge as I get busier, but I also know that health must come first. I never compromise my diet. That is my main sticking point. I would hate to do something that would bring the disease back into my life, that is always somewhere at the back of my mind, so I am pretty good about checking in with how I feel physically. I am a workaholic. I love what I do with such passion that I often have a hard time taking a step back from it and stop taking care of everyone else, all my clients and students, and focus on my own health. I have now learned that if I am really going to keep things balanced, I need to schedule that time in. I do go for regular early morning bike rides by the water or long walks in the park, often before the sun is even up, I go to yoga a couple times a week, and will book weeks off here and there that are not to be used for work, just for fun. I have maintained my twice-daily meditation practice which is vital to me. This biggest lesson in maintaining balance has been learning to say no to things.

JP: What is the one biggest mistake you see people making in their diets?

MT: People worry about it all way too much. The stress we put on ourselves over what to eat, getting the right proportions or calories, getting enough protein or eating too much carbs. Trying to eat all raw, or all vegan, or all macrobiotic or whatever the chosen diet may be, is just incredibly stressful. This stress and worry around food is a greater challenge to our good health than what we are actually eating. I educate people on how to avoid foods that have had to pass through a processing factory or chemistry lab, to avoid foods that come in boxes with health claims. I try and inspire people to simply eat good, whole, natural, unprocessed foods as much as possible. If we stick to a whole foods and predominantly plant-based diet, the counting and balancing is removed and the joy comes back in to the dining experience. We can reclaim a connection to our food as our fuel, the people who grew it and the goodness it provides in our lives. There is just no need to bring any feelings of guilt into the kitchen and trying to achieve any kind of dietary perfection or fit into a specific dietary category, following all the rules to a tee, does just that.

JP: What is your favorite kitchen gadget(s)?

MT: I wish I could be original for this, but is there anyone who owns a VitaMix and doesn’t love it to bits? I use a magic bullet regularly to grind up nuts and seeds. A sharp knife and a bamboo cutting board are my essentials. I think a grain grinder will be my next kitchen gadget acquisition.

JP: Do you believe in incorporating superfoods in your diet?  If so which superfoods are your favorite and why?

MT: I sure do! I love superfoods and was even more inspired after spending a weekend with David Wolfe. I don’t eat all raw through the winter, far too cold in Toronto for that. So I like to think up creative ways to enjoy raw superfoods in some cooked meals. The staples in my pantry are whole cacao beans, goji berries, golden berries and coconut oil. I have recently fallen head over heals for maca which I’ll add to smoothies or mix in to oatmeal and sprinkle on to salads. Spirulina is my fave source of easy protein and again- a great one to add to smoothies, and to boost up juices. Chaga mushroom is the newest addition to my superfood collection which is an amazing booster for the immune system and grows on trees up near my cottage. Other superfoods I keep on hand include hemp seeds, golden berries, and always have sprouts sprouting. I suppose, now that I think about, I am a bit of a superfood junkie. As David Wolfe says, why wouldn’t I want to eat the best food ever? I do!

JP: I know you don’t have kids but do you have any tips on how incorporate healthy foods into a child’s diet.

MT: Hide them! That would be the easy way, mix some hemp seeds into their cereal, sprinkle some ground flax on their salads, or in sandwiches, mix some spirulina into their drinks. That’s the easy way. It would be ideal to start kids off on a healthy eating life, but if they are older and you are transitioning, transition them with you, though at a bit of a slower pace. Junk food should be removed from the home and never ever ever used as a reward for anything. Rewarding good behaviour with sweets is a nasty habit to form. The other suggestions are the basics, sit down and eat with them, they’ll eat what we eat, bring them in to the kitchen to help prepare and educate them on the food. Carrots make our eyes shine bright and powerful, almonds help our bones grow strong, kale builds muscles… Educate them on the positives of the healthy food without bringing stress, calories or any of that nonsense into it.

JP: Can you share with us one of your favorite recipes that is also kid friendly?

MT: Sprouted Nori Rolls are a great hands on recipe to get the kids in on the action. Have them grow the sprouts themselves. It’s a great little project for them to learn about the growing of food with the task of rinsing the sprouts each day as they grow. The rolls with the sprouts are great as mom or dad can slice up a variety of vegetables, the kids can choose from and use the sprouts they grew themselves. This gives them a sense of ownership and individuality over their creation. And it’s healthy!

Nori Rolls with Ginger Sunflower Pate

Ginger Sunflower Pate

  • 1 cup sunflower seeds, soaked overnight
  • 1 clove garlic
  • 1 tbs  lemon juice
  • 1 inch  fresh ginger, grated
  • Salt or tamari, to taste

Blend until smooth in food processor.


Topping Options

  • Sprouts (any kind will do)
  • avocado
  • carrots, sliced long
  • cucumber, sliced long
  • cabbage, shredded
  • cilantro
  • bell pepper, sliced long
  • pickled ginger, chopped
  • Tamari for dipping (optional)

Rolling Nori

Place Nori down on the bamboo mat. Typically, the shinier side is put face down.
Layer filling in neat row, leaving about half an inch of space at the edge of the nori closest to you.
Rub a bit of warm water on the edge farthest from you. This will help the two sides of nori stick together
Holding the closest edge of the bamboo mat, roll the away from you.
Tighten the roll as you go, the same way you would a rug to minimize excess space. Be careful not to make it too tight, however, or fillings may start to fall out.
Once tightened, you should be able to unwrap the bamboo without the roll coming apart.
Cover your roll with the bamboo mat and press your hands over it to further pack the roll.
Move your full roll to a cutting board. Slice it first down the middle with a very sharp or serrated knife. From there you can cut it into sixths or eighths, whichever you prefer.

JP: Anything else you want to share with our readers?

MT: We have enough in our lives to worry about, so why not bring some fun into something we have to do everyday, at least three times a day. The kitchen should be a room of joy, warmth and community. What goes on in that room is the shared responsibility of every member of the family and it is a great way to incorporate more time together. Better in the kitchen than in front of the TV. If we can establish healthy eating and a healthy attitude towards food in our children when they’re young, though they may not fully appreciate it at the time, we are building a solid foundation and understanding that will be with them through life.

 

Breast feeding hints and tips…

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009 by admin

by Ruth Hofer

Navaho tradition has it that when a mother is careful about what she eats and does, the child will drink in this quality of carefulness along with her milk. He will get a taste of responsibility.  This is the reason, they say, that a breastfeed child is more willing to listen to the elders of the tribe than a bottle-fed child and why he is more likely to become a responsible member of his culture.  This means that for a Navaho mother, being careful about her diet while breastfeeding is an expression of love and concern on many levels.

-Hiilary Jacobson, p32 Mother Food

 

breastfeeding

I used to see an acupuncturist skilled in fertility, pregnancy and post partum during my first pregnancy.  Close to my due date she gave me a seemingly unrelated list of foods to avoid for the first six weeks post partum, along with the instruction to gradually reintroduce them one at time, observing the baby’s reaction to the new flavour in my milk.

The idea was primarily to avoid the dreaded colic and keep the baby mellow. Furthermore, following this protocol would (hopefully) ensure a child that grows up allergy free and with an impeccable digestive system that works to the best of its potential.  An extra bonus being that by holding off for these early weeks you might be able to freely eat said foods down the track in your nursing relationship.  Whereas by indulging in it now might mean a baby who is always going to have a sensitivity to that particular food.  She swore by it, telling me stories of her three children, whom with the last-born she caved in and ate berries everyday.  He is the only one of her children to now suffer food sensitivities and digestive upsets while traveling, not to mention the diarrhoea and stomach pains he suffered as a new born.

Thinking that 5000 years of practice meant that traditional Chinese medicine (otherwise know as TCM)  might have worked out a thing or two (besides, I actually enjoy the idea of restricting my diet) I wholeheartly accepted her advice.

 

Foods to avoid for first six weeks postpartum

  • Onions, garlic, leek, chives
  • brassica family: cabbage, broccoli, kale, cauliflower, brussel sprouts
  • stone fruit: peaches, plums, apricots, mangos
  • melons
  • berries (goji berries are okay)
  • coffee, chocolate, tea
  • peanuts
  • tomatoes
  • citrus (lemons and limes being okay in small quantities)
  • chili
  • vinegar

Avoiding stimulants is pretty straight forward, and it’s already somewhat common knowledge that cabbage and onions in the nursing mother’s diet can play havoc on the babies digestive system. The other foods on the list aren’t as straight forward without looking at it from a TCM perspective.  And as I’m not a TCM doctor myself I can’t go into any great detail, except to say it’s worked for me.  Also, I later found out, at the magical six weeks mark a lot of the baby’s digestive system kicks in for the first time, before that it was still developing.  At two weeks, apparently, there is also a major change.

Personally, I have found this advice to work really well. I liked the way it keeps me totally connected to my baby as I nourish them.  I found that I was really aware of how what I ate affected them.  By keeping my diet neutral I could tell immediately if something novel affected my baby is any way.  I personally liked the way it reset my palate, all flavours became more intense as I began to try them again.  My eldest is nearly three, and she has awesome digestion. As a baby in Bali she would eat with local families, constantly putting things in her mouth from off the floor and never once got sick. The only foods I could never eat, until she began eating solid food herself, were watermelons and oranges. Both those fruit in my milk would give her instant diarrhoea, but as soon as she ate other things besides breastmilk, watermelon and oranges were her two of her favourites!

So now your next question to me is probably going to be, well what can I eat?

There are tons of super nourishing, milk supporting raw foods that also tonify the baby’s digestion. Dates, spinach, all sprouts (especially sprouted grains), papayas, fennel, celery, cucumbers, pears, coconut, beets, chard, dill, basil, cilantro, carrots, almonds, cashews, pumpkin seeds, dandelion, sweet potato, avocados, tahini, nettles, cardamom, cinnamon, ginger, cumin seeds, caraway seeds, anise seeds.  These foods help ‘build your blood’ which is then turned into milk, ensure that you milk is full of all the necessary fatty acids, and soothe your baby’s stomach.

 

A True Story: How I Left My Family for 5 Days… And How They Survived

Tuesday, October 6th, 2009 by Lisa

molmI always do everything. I plan the meals, buy the food, prepare the dishes. I also do all the cleaning, all the bills, and generally just keep the family running. I do it all. My family could not survive without me.

Well, o.k. They help a bit. … But I do most of it.

So, when I decided to go to the Raw Spirit Fest in DC for 5 days, I came up with a plan of action to ensure that my husband and 12-year-old daughter could make it through this rough spot.

Step 1. Panic
Panicking is an important tool in every mother’s toolbox. If you start with panicking at the outset, then it doesn’t need to be done later. Just get it out of the way right at the beginning. Make sure to envision every possible thing that could go wrong, every accident, every poorly-combined meal, every dish left uncleaned. Fill your mind with visions of returning home to 3 inches of dust and dirt, with family members crawling helplessly around the floor, calling your name in desperation and sadness. Imagine the dog emaciated and dehydrated and the gerbils clawing at the walls of their cage. … OK. Got that in your mind? Good. Now let’s move onto Step 2.

Step 2. Emergency Preparedness
Does your family have enough Band-Aids, toilet paper, fruits, veggies, and other consumables? Do they have raw food recipe websites bookmarked? Are all the emergency numbers posted in the appropriate places? Are family members familiar with dish soap and toothpaste? Think through each crisis and make sure that resources are in place to avert any and all disasters. Talk often with each family member about your what-if fears and make sure that your fears become their fears. Wonder why your family is talking about you in hushed tones when you’re out of the room. Go to Step 3.

Step 3. Travel… with Multiple Daily Check-Ins
After completing Step 2, you can feel good that your family is well-prepared for any emergency that may arise. Try to breathe and enjoy your travels. Check-ins morning, noon, and night are recommended. Notice their voice inflections during each check-in: Are they trying to hide their sadness? Are they telling you everything? How are the gerbils and dog? How will you truly know if they’re doing well? Building in little surprise questions throughout the conversations help to test their survival and coping skills. Some examples could include: “So, what did you end up having for breakfast?… Uh-hungh. Hmm… And did the GERBILS enjoy their breakfast, too?” … or… “So, did you have that spinach with your dinner last night?… What?! You DIDN’T eat any GREENS?!?” Little reminders like these will be much appreciated throughout your time away from home. Proceed to Step 4.

Step 4. The Return Home
When you return home, brace yourself for all the chaos envisioned in Step 1, but act cool and casual as you walk through the door, reminding yourself that your family’s fragile self-esteem is in your hands. As you set down your bags, nonchalantly inspect each and every corner of the house, the weight and demeanor of the dog, the liveliness of the gerbils, and the contents of the fridge. Thank your family for their willingness to accept this trial by fire with open minds and hearts and… wonder how they learned to survive without you.

Author’s Note: When I got home, I did indeed follow Step 4 and have to tell you honestly that what I was greeted with was an enthusiastic dog, a father and daughter that got some good bonding time in, and a fridge that was empty of all the raw vegan food I purchased. The house was surprisingly clean and nothing was ruined or out of order. The author is now looking into a 3-week trip to India… by herself.

**Lisa Marie Lindenschmidt is a raw foods chef and teacher and owner of Rite Food and Company , which offers workshops on intentional and joyful eating. Lisa Marie and her homeschooled daughter, Mo, record a weekly podcast – called Sweet Peas Podcast – chronicling their raw foods journey together.



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