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ROOT BEER ELIXIR FOR EPIC HEALTH

Friday, January 8th, 2010 by admin

by Ruth Hofer

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Don’t be put off by the possibly esoteric list of herbs, or the number of steps, or the length of prep time… Enjoy the process of creating and brewing your family into epic health and relish in the joy that comes from seeing them enjoy a special beverage that totally and 100% supports their health and totally 100% pleases their taste buds. And for anyone who in their pre-raw days consumed a lot of root beer… now you can once more, this time guilt free!

My husband loves the flavour of root beer. In Australia, the closest substitute is Sarsaparilla soda. Both of these, however, aren’t exactly something I’d be happy with my children drinking and definitely not something I’d choose for myself.
I’m pretty sure all the raw mom readers are aware of how damaging consuming pop (or soft drink as us Aussies call it) is for our families’ health. I’m also pretty sure there are at least a few moms out there whose kids still would LOVE it if they served them root beer as a treat. Well… now you can… and as your loved ones enjoy the yummy root beer goodness, you can enjoy the fact that you are supporting their vibrant health rather than compromising it.

HOW TO CREATE A ROOT BEER ELIXIR STEP-BY-STEP

  1. Fill a saucepan (ideally heat proof glass) with around 2 litres of cold spring water.
  2. Gather and place into your pot of water:
    • 3 TB sarsaparilla root
    • 2 TB burdock root
    • 2 TB dandelion root (make sure it’s raw, not the roasted coffee substitute)
    • 2 TB licorice root -
      (I used all dried, but if fresh is available to you, use fresh instead, just double the amounts.)
    • 2 TB freshly grated ginger
    • 1 vanilla bean, snipped into 4 pieces
  3. Slowly simmer the herbs in the water until it gently boils, reduce the heat and let mixture infuse for a couple of hours at least (overnight even).
  4. Strain mixture and add sweeteners. I personally use a couple of spoonfuls each of molasses and evaporated cane juice and then reheat the brew to boiling and let reduce to a syrupy consistency. Remember that the licorice itself adds a sweet flavour, so use less concentrated sweetener then you normally would. I like molasses for the colour and iron content even though it isn’t raw. I haven’t tried it yet, but I bet simmering dates in the brew would work fine. Or just add straight up honey. You could even add in some cinnamon and stevia for sweetness without calories. I’m a little more lax on the sweeteners for this, as it isn’t an everyday drink.
  5. Let cool and decant into a glass bottle.
  6. Add 5 - 10 drops WINTERGREEN essential oil and shake vigorously.
  7. Store in fridge for up to a week. Use about 1/3 root beer mix to water (using sparkling mineral water gives you the same bubbly feeling as the regular pop version does and seriously kids of all ages love it… just don’t tell them it’s healthy!)

The most important ingredients to replicate that root beer taste are the sarsaparilla and the wintergreen. Feel free to experiment with the others. All the dried root herbs are liver tonics. Pretty much everyone’s liver in western society could use a little help and cleanse. Go easy on this stuff if you are pregnant. The licorice helps carry the other herbs to where they are needed in the body (i.e. the liver) but also has the tendency to increase blood pressure (another reason to exercise caution drinking this during pregnancy). All the ingredients are safe for children. The wintergreen really is the key ingredient. If you are at all cautious about ingesting essential oils check out the chapter on using essential oils in food preparation in the book Rainbow Green Live Food Cuisine by Gabriel Cousens. I love using essential oils in my food, especially cardamom essential oil (but that is a whole other post in itself). You can buy wintergreen oil from the Hulda Clark store where she uses it in her healing protocols.

Seriously, Wintergreen oil is amazing stuff. When I was playing around with the root beer elixir (before the addition of the wintergreen) something wasn’t quite right, so I googled traditional ways of making root beer and came across information on wintergreen leaves being the main ingredient of the root beer of yesteryear. We just happened to have some of the oil lying around, so I added it in and WOW, my cordial now tasted like the real deal. My husband gulped his glass down and begged for another.

From my research, wintergreen is a super potent healing agent for joint injuries, muscle pain, bursitis, and arthritic conditions. As it is so potent though, I would not recommend consuming extreme amounts of wintergreen. My husband is currently rehabilitating a pretty major hip injury sustained from some hectic mountain biking. If you are the mom of active and thrill seeking teen boys, that’s another reason to give this recipe a try.

THE MOST EXCITING NEW BIG THING SINCE GOING RAW!

Saturday, December 5th, 2009 by Lisa

the-daylight-diet-picI have just finished reading THE DAYLIGHT DIET. I actually woke up at 5am just to finish it. I usually go to sleep around 3 or 4am, so this is amazing. I went raw 8 years ago and it has been the most important thing I have ever done for my health. Until now! This book is going to change my life! There, I said it. I really mean it too. I recall an Oprah show about 15 years ago where she asked people ‘What is the ONE thing you know if you did it would change your life?’ I knew right away what that one thing was, but I felt it was absolutely impossible! In fact, that one thing was actually 2 things because that one habit morphed into another new one.

It starts with sleep way back…I have always had a sleep problem. Ever since I was a kid. When I was about 4 or 5, I used to make myself stay awake while listening to my mom and my step-dad argue because he was so abusive that I thought I could protect her as long as I stayed awake. (amazing how much kids feel responsible for!) I actually used to climb out of bed so I could see the light from underneath the closed door and listen, to be on guard, and I would fall asleep lying on the floor right next to my bedroom door. And I remember my mom used to come in to check on us and she would always be so surprised to find me there, and would carry me back to bed.

At age 11, I got an early morning paper route for a few years to earn my own money and had to get up at 4:30-5 am during the week to finish my route, get home for breakfast and get ready for school. I loved being up in the dark when most people were sleeping. I felt so grown-up. When my by-now single mom suddenly died when I was 16, and now living on my own, I used to stay up all night either painting, reading or working on school essays. Most teenagers stay up to party…I didn’t need alcohol or drugs- the night time was when I felt so creative and free, and I think it was also my time to rebel and just do whatever I wanted. I had no one telling me what to do, I made all my own decisions, was completely independent, and I liked it.

Although I never smoked, drank coffee or booze, or touched drugs, I was always pretty frail and got sick a lot with colds, flu and cold-sores- up to 8 on my mouth at a time. When I went raw at age 36, my immune system had crashed and I was aging fast. Fast-forward to now just shy of 45, I am healthier than I have been in my whole life and people say I look like I am in my 20’s. Raw food healed and transformed me. I am joyful and grateful for this knowledge every single day.

eating-raw-on-the-go-croppedHowever, I never did change my sleeping habits. I would go to bed every night between 3 and 4am, or later, or not at all. Due to school and work, and then later having my babes, I always got by 7 or 8 so I could never catch up on lost sleep. Especially since going raw, I felt like super-woman to have so much energy and be so productive. But that habit eventually morphed into another which was late night eating. I knew instinctively when Oprah asked that question, that if I could have a more natural sleep cycle such as rising at sunrise and sleeping well before midnight, it would change my life. I didn’t know how my life would change, but now I do. My health would go to the next level! And who knows what that will do..!

Paul Nison with his new book The Daylight Diet says that when we eat is just as important as what we eat. So going raw just isn’t enough for true health and longevity! Paul makes it very clear in this fascinating and easy to understand book how our eating and sleeping are tied in together, and that we just don’t sleep properly when we eat late. And the body does all its healing and cleansing while we sleep, so this is critical for health. Without proper rest and sleep, the body just cannot digest and assimilate nutrition, and our bodies become more and more taxed and depleted.

Paul also points out that eating too much food- be it over-eating at each meal and/or eating too many times in a day, is doing us no favours whether we are raw or not. I am not a snacker and really tend to eat mostly after my kids are in bed having only green juices and smoothies during the day, then one big meal at around 9pm and a midnight snack around 1 or 2am…I didn’t realise how damaging this actually is. Instead, Paul recommends eating the bulk of our nutrients early in the day when our digestion is most vital, instead of at night when our stomach is literally asleep. Makes sense…but not easy!

There are ideal times to eat and Paul tells us exactly when they are. And there are ideal amounts. As well, there are ideal combinations, and lastly, there are ideal foods. Paul helps us to know precisely what we need to know to get the most out of our beautiful raw diet. So many of us raw foodies believe we can eat whatever we want whenever we want as long as its raw…this is a mistake. I also find people who eat raw often don’t sleep enough because we feel so good and think we are invincible. After reading The Daylight Diet, I now see sleep as a nutrient, as important as food or air or water. I plan on catching up!

I now know that I CAN change that one habit, Oprah! Through the knowledge and inspiration from reading The Daylight Diet, I not only know exactly what to do, I also know how. I am soooooo excited because I feel empowered and ready to challenge myself and break some life-long habits of mine so I can experience richer health than ever. I hope you will all join with me and read this book and tweak and improve your health habits. Many of us have psychological and/or physiological issues around our eating and sleeping habits just as I do, and it takes patience and understanding and discipline to change. That is the beauty of going raw; we can heal ourselves body/mind/spirit. It’s Ok to go at YOUR own pace and be gentle and loving with yourself. There are 3 stages in the DAYLIGHT DIET and next time I will share what stage I am in and exactly what changes I have made so far. And I’d love to hear about your progress too.

Ask *Raw Mom*… Your Questions Answered….

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009 by admin

Q: Dear Raw Mom,

Hi there, I am feeding a 24 week old daughter at the moment as well as running after 3 active boys (homeschooled). I have ordered loads of inspiration, thank you. More specifically though, as I am currently on a 100% RAW Challenge, is there anything I need for myself to keep breast milk at optimal quality?

I do not want to get run down.

Thanks Renee :-)

A: Dear Renee,

Wow Mama! You do have A LOT on your plate… please take good solid care of  yourself.
I cannot give medical advice but if you could stay current with yourself and attune to what your body and spirit needs to keep you well and contented, you will probably be able to intuit what you need.
REST, high NUTRITION, and pure WATER are all a must.
And if you feel you need some supplements or superfoods, read-up and see what resonates for you.
I trust you have a good support system with a good health-care provider like a open-minded doctor or Naturopath… just in case you ever feel ‘not right’…

Blissings,

Shannon Shakaya Breeze

Q: Hello Raw Mom

I have an 8 year old daughter and a 6 year old step daughter. My stepdaughter is 100% raw and I am finding it difficult at times finding a happy medium at meal time. My daughter eats about 80% raw and I would like to eventually have her 100% with the odd time for bday cake etc if at a bday because none of my family nor her friends eat raw. She is worried she will be made fun of. Any suggestions on how I can gradually get my daughter to convert to a raw diet? She has had many tummy problems and since eating more raw she has noticed a difference which helps.

Also, I am coming into my second month of pregnancy! And I want to provide myself and my baby with the very best. Again, any suggestions!?

I am new to the raw diet and am very eager to learn and begin my conversion as well but don’t want to shock my system while pregnant. I am about 80% raw as well. But mostly just salads, soups etc.

Thank you so much,

Your Canadian friend

A: Hello Dear One,

Hold the space for what you want; children LIVE into it.  A baby kitten who falls into the water will drown if the mother cat senses the situation is hopeless - but the kitten will not give up and will strive to survive if it senses the mother is striving to rescue her.
We need to deal with our own emotions and limitations inside of us rather than approach the situation from without if we aren’t in alignment.  Are YOU worried that your daughter will be made fun of, or are you feeling anxious about her ability to handle it if that happen…?
What fears do you have around your daughter’s eating all raw…?
Start there.

We are the transmitters and our young children are the receivers of so much of this unconscious dilemmas and drama.
It is natural to have questions and concerns about eating all raw especially when you are so new to it, so do not feel bad  you have some unconscious reservations that your daughter may be picking up on…just take your time, there is no rush.  You are doing amazing!  Your daughters are amazing.

Allow everyone’s process to unfold with love and faith.  Perhaps a 100% raw diet will one day be right for your daughter…perhaps where she has landed for now is perfect for her.
True food and sustenance comes from the support and acceptance and enjoyment that we receive as much as what we eat.

Continue to grow and celebrate yourselves and every step of your journey can be bringing you all a strong sense of self and sense of rightness and joy.  Read and research to help combat any lingering doubts - Shazzie’s EVIE’S KITCHEN is a great place to start for supporting yourself in just staying in tune with yourself and your children moment by moment, my manual and DVD RAISING CHILDREN RAISES US, is inspiring and reinforcement, and Dr Cousen’s at www.treeoflife.nu has great resources for pregnant raw moms to be.

I hope that helps.

I am so proud of you!

Blissings,
Shakaya Breeze

***Send in YOUR questions to info@rawmom.com and we will feature them on  Ask *Raw Mom*….

Can It be? Yes, It Can!

Thursday, November 19th, 2009 by admin

by Jess Leonard


familyinkitchenIt can be very stressful to transition to Raw. As a mother of three and wife to one. . .  None of whom are as enthusiastic as I am about going Raw, I can tell you that every day at meal time I get a headache. As the mom I want to lead by example, not force, and definitely not have to fight every step of the way.  I want my kids to be healthy, and healthy. For my husband and I, we want to feel young and full of energy, weight loss and clear glowing skin would be the bonuses for us.

We have bounced back and forth for over two years now. If asked we would say that we eat predominately vegetarian, a lot of Raw, and a lot of SAD. Some weeks we are good, the recipes I present at meal times are accepted and devoured. Other times, the craving for sugars and processed foods is too great for my family to fend off.

People in the United States go every day to special places to help them overcome alcohol, drugs, and other addictions. I know there are places out there were people can go to overcome their cooked food/junk food addictions. But in reality, not everyone can afford to go and stay at these places. Though I do wish it were possible!

Wouldn’t that be grand! Being able to go somewhere and have people prepare Raw meals for you and your family, with teachers there to give information and mini classes during the afternoons on the whys and how’s and what for’s of nutrition and Raw. Having that support system in place and at one’s beck and call for long enough time for you to become stronger than that craving for ‘rocky road’ is priceless and something we all would benefit from. Your armor hard as a rock against that sweet potato pie with the marshmallow top that your mom has made for you, because it is your childhood favorite.

Eating with family and friends who do not follow the same diet would be a breeze because you would be solid in your raw foundation. Impenetrable and secure in your choices and knowledge of what you were doing being the best for you and your family. I don’t think I am the only one who gets headaches at meal times. I’m pretty sure, OK I hope, there are others out there who like me, are struggling to do better, want to do better.

I find great comfort and support in visiting the websites of the Raw Divas, and visiting with my raw friends on the forums. It may not be a 30 day rehab, but it does help make one day at a time a little easier. So if you’re in the same spot as I am… take a few breathes. Make a plan, make a menu, and write out the steps to accomplish that plan. Stick to it! I know it’s hard, believe me you, I know.

But it is POSSIBLE! It CAN be done, and if you just hang in there, push forward, it will get done. You will wake up one morning, vibrant and healthy, feeling strong and beautiful. You will have accomplished your goals and you will be happy.

And that’s what it’s about.

** Jess is one of the newer members of our Blogging Team.

Ask *Raw Mom*… Meet Raw Dad!

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009 by admin

**Each Wednesday we will be answering questions from our readers. If you have a question for *Raw Mom* send it to Ask *Raw Mom*

Q: Dear *Raw Mom*

eating1My name is Roy, I’m not a Raw Mom, I’m an aspiring Raw Dad to be. I’m the leader in my family when comes to health. I was introduced to raw food just last year from my friend, Linda, who is a full-time raw for years.
I was totally blown away by this new way of eating and I see the endless bounds of energy, vatality, and of course the fact she looks 10 years younger now.
I was a full-time vegan for 2 years around 7 years back. Because of peer pressure from family and friends, I switch back to the normal food and diets. I am very conscious of eating more vegetables and fruits since then, and less meat. However, in the place where I live in, Singapore, it’s a food haven.

I was introduced to your website by my friend Linda too. I am spending a lot of hours browsing around your products, articles, videos and all your writing on your website. I am seriously wanting to get some of your products, and also ask you some questions too… I’m recently trying out a 3 day full raw detox diet. For 3 full days, I would do coffee enema, drink green smoothies, eat raw nuts, and essential oil (UDO Oil) I love it, and it gives me a lot of energy, I can work whole day… BUT…

I feel very hungry throughout the day.

At first, I only had green smoothies, and I gave up easily. On top of that, I eat salad with fruits too, and I feel hungry, and I tried nuts, like almond, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds and UDO Oil. I managed to do it for 3 days 2 weeks ago. Just recently, for the last try, I felt very hungry again.I knew something was very wrong, and I decided to stop and email you to ask you what went wrong?
I know that a raw food should be and must be good feeling, and filling to my hunger, and not make me feel hungry. I am aware that it’s my emotion at play to crave for food like rice, noodles and comfort food that I had since young. So, any advice or what book to get would be great…

I’m really striving to be the next raw testimonials to myself, my family, (wife and 1 year old son), and of course to you too.Thank you,

Roy

A: Hi Roy!

My husband had the same challenge as you, and actually so do a lot of people. Feeling hungry is very common whenever someone changes their diet. The body doesn’t like fast changes…it takes time to adjust and prefers a gentle pace.

I have coached people and found a trick that worked which is to get the raw food in first, but allow yourself to eat what you are used to as well. This way you aren’t depriving yourself of what you are used to so you aren’t psychologically stressing yourself out. This in itself cuts down on wild cravings and emotional eating. Secondly, once you get the raw food and juices into your body, you become more hydrated and mineralized and the nutrition starts to balance your moods and blood sugar so you feel calm and satisfied.

You will think at first that you will just be eating everything in sight i.e. raw food and cooked, but over a period of a couple weeks, you will balance it out and rely more on the raw food and less of what you are used to. You will slowly but surely become truly satiated as you become well-nourished physically and emotionally.

Do not deny yourself. Nourish yourself. Use nutritionally dense foods like smoothies and juices, nut mylks and pates/burgers etc and superfoods like Spirulina/bee pollen/ hemp seeds/ coconut butter and eat enough food to satisfy you. Then if you are still ‘feeling hungry’ which is probably more emotional than physiological at that point, some of your filling food for comfort- just try to go with whole grain rice and make choices that are better as you progress.

Congratulations on being a leader in your family and for your committment to a healthy and happy life!

Blissings,

Shannon

Meet Debra Tau!

Friday, November 6th, 2009 by admin

by Debra Tau
A big hello and hugs to all the Raw Moms out there!
thaddeus-debraI have been eating raw foods for two and a half years and have had the honor of being a new Mama to my son, Thaddeus, for eight months now!
My entry into motherhood has been a roller coaster of rude awakenings and sacred journeys… but then again… looking back, so was my entry into the world of raw foods!
Probably like most other Moms, I was in shock initially at just how hard those newborn days are! Nothing had prepared me for them… at least nothing I could find from the American culture I was raised in… and yet I found that when I connected with myself intuitively, I was already all-knowing as a woman and as a Mother… I just needed to remember
what I already knew!

Tapping into my higher self and the natural mother within me was easier than I realized it would be. I credit a lot of that to the higher vibration of my living foods diet! Thankfully, I had “figured out” the raw food diet before I gave birth to my son… but it was definitely a process that evolved over time… and like most raw fooders, I experienced a number of shifts in the diet before I landed at what works for me.
I certainly haven’t “arrived,” but I am in tune with my body and feel like I have found a way of eating raw foods that will go beyond fads and actually continue to work for me in the long run!

And so now as a full-time exclusively breast-feeding Mama… with only an occasional green juice to supplement… I can say that I find the energy to feed my Plump-a-licious Cream-Puff, aka, Little Buddha, by grateful consumption of a diet rich in organic, plant-based whole foods!

I draw most of my energy during the morning and afternoon from drinking lots of ionized alkaline water and exclusively eating fruit that is ripe and raw. It’s simple, easy to prepare, quick to digest, and doesn’t slow me down! For dinner, I start with a raw green soup and finish with a raw salad of leafy greens, sprouts, and veggies.

I eat seasonally for the most part and use different herbs and spices to keep the meals varied. I do a lot of mono-eating with my fruit, but do occasionally mix a few fruits together in a smoothie. With the fruit smoothies, as well as with the green soup and salads, I try to keep the ingredient list to five foods. This makes the prep quick and simple, as well as make digestion that much easier by not combining too many different foods. I also keep my fat intake low by consuming only a little bit of avocado or nuts with my dinner. I do this because fats take much longer to digest and tend to slow me down… which is okay in the evenings as I’m winding down for the day anyways!

This is my “norm” to be 100% raw vegan for about five days out of the week. Usually one or two nights a week, I go out to dinner with my family or friends and will indulge in a non-organic salad with some vegetarian cooked food, which may sometimes include cooked grains!

I find that giving myself this break allows me the freedom to be social with my food, and keeps me on track and enjoying what I’m doing the rest of the time! I also give myself a Juice Feast one day a week, consisting of freshly juiced fruit in the morning and afternoon, green juices in the late afternoon, and green soup for dinner! I also enjoy preparing gourmet raw food recipes on occasion to share with friends!

I plan to raise Thaddeus and all my future children to eat a living foods diet… and I will probably keep it simple by having them eat whatever I’m eating! In the meantime, I will continue to predominantly breastfeed my son until he has all his teeth, and thus has all the enzymes he needs to properly digest solid food. As he continues to grow, I will occasionally, and probably more regularly, supplement with liquid nourishment, such as green juices, nut milks, and coconut water.

In keeping in line with eating a healthy diet, I have a great desire, like every Mom, to raise a healthy child – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and socially! I have read a number of books, talked to a lot of other moms, and searched deep within myself to practice natural ways of raising my baby. I also have had the benefit of working at Hippocrates Health Institute, where I have gained a wealth of knowledge on the raw food lifestyle and natural ways of living. Furthermore, I listened to the majority of the interviews on the Raw Mom Summit, and was blessed tremendously with some new ideas as well as received confirmation on a lot of the things I was already doing as a Mom!
thaddeusOne of the most important aspects of mothering for me so far has been to live out the Continuum Concept, as described in Jean Liedloff’s book. I finished reading her book just a few weeks before I heard her interview on the Raw Mom Summit! I instantly knew that I wanted to put into practice the Continuum Concept, especially giving my baby the adequate time to be “in arms” before he became more independent through crawling and eventually walking. I have found it challenging in American culture, since the concept is based on a mother-baby-village relationship.
Most Americans are not living in villages, but rather in isolated single-family units. Without having someone near by all the time whom I could pass my baby to when I need a break, makes carrying my baby around a bit tiring at times. But I have realized that I can only do the best that I can do!

Beyond the “in arms” aspect of the Continuum Concept, is the need for the mother to be in her continuum of being amongst her peers, contributing to her community. I know that for me, being home alone with my baby is isolating and sometimes even depressing. It is much easier for me emotionally to get through my day when I am with other moms and children!

Having a great desire to live out the Continuum Concept and be with my baby while also being with other women working to contribute financially to our families has been the inspiration to my latest vision of starting a “Day Village.” I would like to bring together like-minded Mamas with their babies and children to go through our day together. I want to plant a garden together that would provide food for us to eat a living foods diet, as well as to sell to the community as a co-op. Furthermore, I would like us each to develop a “craft” that we can enjoy the process of creating, that we can sell.

My ideas are to make earth-friendly products that serve a purpose to help Moms, children, and families live a natural and healthy life. The point is to be TOGETHER during the day, so we can support each other as mothers, help each other with our babies, and be productive in ways that add income to our families! And at the end of the day, we go home to our husbands, partners, and families feeling happier and healthier because we are living in the continuum!!!

I look forward to sharing more details in the future on various subjects that I have discussed here in my debut, as well as other natural ways of raising my baby that are close to my heart! A glimpse at just a few of those other things are cloth diapering and Elimination Communication, organic baby clothes and reusing / recycling clothes, conscious ways of communication, being in nature, and eventually plans to home-school / un-school my children.

All the best to all the Raw Moms out there!

Be Well!

Cheers,
Debra

Like Mother, Like Daughter. . .

Friday, October 30th, 2009 by admin

by Karen Schachter

bakingWe moms have a tough path to walk as we help our daughters navigate the sometimes choppy waters of growing up girl.  It’s our job to protect our children and do our best to keep them safe and healthy, yet we also have to allow them to grow, stretch and learn from their own mistakes. It’s a fine line between letting them be who they are and wanting to “tweak” them just a little bit so they don’t suffer from the same mistakes or struggles that we did.

When it comes to healthy eating and a positive body image, this fine line can feel fragile and confusing, particularly if you struggle with these issues yourself.

When I teach workshops or work individually with moms, I am always asked some of the same questions: Should I let my kids have desert every day? How do I deal with their love of sweets?  How can I help her stop eating when she’s not hungry anymore?  How can I help her lose weight without making her feel bad about her body?  How can I help her feel good about her body, no matter what its size? How can I help her feel good about herself and treat herself with respect?

Although I can give concrete “answers” to many of these questions, the truth is, there is no one “right” answer that works for everyone, all the time. There is no “magic bullet” to self-esteem, to body confidence, to self-care, and to inspiring good health in our daughter.

However, there is one piece of the puzzle that is so important, one KEY asset that is SO valuable, and one action that IS within our control…that is more powerful than anything we can say or anything we can feed them.

YOU.

As her mom, the only thing you really have control over (especially as she gets older) is who YOU are BEING and how YOU are negotiating your own health, your own eating, your own body image and your own self –esteem.  Are you embodying the actions and feelings that you want her to learn?

Here’s a little food for thought to get you going:

  • Next time you notice yourself betwixt and between about an eating habit of your daughter’s, go ahead and check in with yourself: Is there something about that behavior that reminds you of one of your own struggles? (Go ahead and address it in YOURSELF first).
  • Imagine that your daughter develops a delicious, nourishing and healthy relationship to food, eating and her body – what will that look like?  Go ahead and try out some of those self-nourishing actions for YOURSELF.
  • What if food,  eating and body image weren’t a concern, for you or for your daughter?  What if you had true freedom and peace with these things?  What would your energy and attention be focused on instead? (Go ahead and give it a try).

Here’s the thing:  Our daughters learn how to live in their bodies and care for themselves with food and in their lives from MANY sources, including the media, their peers, their families, and from all the women in their lives.  

I am on a mission – and I invite you to join me – to help change the “face” of what the next generation of girls are learning – and I believe we must first BE THE CHANGE we wish to see in them.   (When moms set their minds to something, there is no telling what could happen…)


*** Karen Schachter is a licensed clinical social worker, certified health counselor, and founder of “Dishing With Your Daughter ,” which offers a variety of programs for girls and women.   As a psychology of eating expert, Karen is especially passionate about helping the next generation of girls experience nourishment, peace and deliciousness in food, eating and their bodies so they can live a healthy, authentic life. Enough of the angst and struggle!  Karen believes in the value of the mom-daughter relationship as a powerful vehicle for creating this change.

Ask *Raw Mom*. . . Your questions.

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009 by admin

Each Wednesday we will be answering questions from our readers. If you have a question for *Raw Mom* send it to Ask *Raw Mom*

Q: Hi ladies,

I have been interested in your new dessert book and the lunchbox book, but because I am overseas things like coconut meat and the variety of fresh berries and interesting fruits is limited. Not to mention cacao butter costs the bomb - are many of your recipes dependent on exotic foods?  ( I would have a minimal to moderate amount of superfoodage going on )

In Gratitude,
Julia

A: Hi Julia,

cacaoThe HEALTHY LUNCHBOX recipe book contains no hard to find or exotic ingredients; even the cacao recipes call for the substitution of carob if cacao isn’t an option. Where coconut water is used, the recipe mentions and does just as well with plain water or nut mylk, so its really interchangeable, as all good, user-friendly recipes are.
Chia seeds and goji berries show up a couple times, but they are not difficult to find anymore, and of all the superfoods, I feel they are mostly economical because a little goes a long way.  Goji berries are costly, however, so raisins, currants or other dried fruits acan be substituted if need be.

I appreciate the whole Superfood movement and recognize its value, yet as a mom I mostly relate to the struggle moms have just getting real food into their children… so I have kept it all pretty real.  The 2 recipes that have jicima, which is a root vegetable that tastes between a potato and an apple, and the few that contain coconut buttter (olive oil would work too) are kind of nice and refreshing because I feel and made the statement in the opening of the book that it is good to try new things, and be open.  Good nutrition almost depends on it.

So its mostly common ingredients with a few surprises thrown in to keep it interesting.
I very much hope you will enjoy it!

Blissings,
~Shakaya
Shannon Shakaya Breeze Leone

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Q: Dear Raw Mom,

1. How do you transition your child(ren) from SAD to raw?

2. How long did it take to get them to eat healthy?

3. How do you prepare your child(ren) to deal with social situations, such
as birthday parties, where there will be lots of unhealthy SAD food there?

A: It’s all in the DOING!

It starts with the AWARENESS of what is possible…of the importance of proper nutrition on our children’s young bodies, minds and spirit.
I personally recommend ppl start by

  • REMOVE ALL JUNKFOOD from the diet i.e. refined sugar and flour use fruit, honey and other natural sweeteners and create or buy natural and less processed treats.
  • ADD IN GREEN SMOOTHIES daily- read GREEN FOR LIFE.
  • GO RAW ALL DAY UNTIL DINNER.

angelapastaFill up in the day with fresh fruit, veggies and dips, raw soups and flax crackers, raw trail mixes, raw puddings and cereals, salads and garden burgers and zucchini pasta and cabbage burritos and manna bread avocado, tomato, lettuce, cucumber sandwiches or peanut butter/almond/cashew butter with banana.

Green Smoothies and/or Green Juices and/or Nut milks and/or Herbal Teas, with superfoods and supplements such as SPIRULINA/HEMP SEEDS/CHIA SEEDS/BEE POLLEN~ all great protein sources.

Then serve whatever is comforting and wholesome for dinner: soups, stews, steamed veggies, non-gluten grains such as MILLET, QUINOA, AMARANTH, BUCKWHEAT, RICE

Here is where you would have your meat or fish or other cooked foods.

The key here is HEALTH.

HOWEVER long it takes to do this, which could be as fast and quick as you like, its up to each family to go at their own pace.

At social events, bring fruit platters and raw desserts, and big salads and fill-up ahead of time with green smoothies and bring trail mix for the car; and then let go a bit and enjoy the festivities.  My rule is no meat, no junk food.  If they want to try something, I let my kids now, (when they were younger than 9 I just created their plates with the best choices I could find - now that they are 10 and 11, they do this themselves)
And the next day, we are raw and simple and ‘detoxing’ so its all good!

I hope this helps!
Just follow your heart and for some inspiration check out my HEALTHY LUNCHBOX e-book and/or my DVD RAISING CHILDREN RAISES US at the rawmom.com site

Blissings,
xoxoxShakaya

Choices. . .

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009 by admin

by Mary Delasantos
strawberriesYesterday I picked up my daughter, Kim, and granddaughter Hannah, and brought them over to our house for a visit.  Just like any other grandma (or mom), my first thought was that they must need to eat; so on the way to our house we stopped at the grocery store to pick up a few things. We went to the produce department first and Hannah picked out a pint of bright red strawberries for her snack. As we browsed the rest of the store she held on to her treat.  Later when it was our turn at the cash register Hannah would not release the package and protected it as if her life depended upon it.  The cashier had to walk around to the cart where Hannah was sitting so she could scan the price label.

When we got to the house, Kim washed and sliced about half of the strawberries for Hannah.  Hannah was completely enjoying her brightly colored, sweet and juicy snack until Kim and I joined her at the kitchen counter with our snacks.  I offered Kim tortilla chips to go with some very yummy fresh made salsa that Dan had whipped up a few minutes earlier and I had a handful of raw sundried spiced olives. As soon as we sat down Hannah pushed away the strawberries and wanted some of Kim’s chips.  We told her that she could have a chip after she finished all of her strawberries.  Two year old Hannah retrieved her bowl and continued eating.  When Hannah took her last slice of strawberry she slipped off her stool and walked away having forgotten all about the chips.

This made me think about the way most of us eat.  We have tendencies to go for the less nutritious processed foods such as chips and crackers because they are so readily available to us.  If we learn to keep the fresh and nutritious items in our line of site we too, just as Hannah did, will truly enjoy those choices as well.  And, we will feel better for making those choices both mentally and physically.

Happy Eating!

Mary Delasantos
voiceofthevegan.com

Take it easy….

Monday, October 26th, 2009 by admin

by Kemi Nekvapil
As mothers we are very blessed to be able to take on the role as healers in our families. Sometimes this means holding our children when they are hurt, physically or emotionally. Sometimes it means holding ourselves and our partners in the same circumstances.
But there is also the role of healer in the food we choose to nourish our families with.
If like me you are part of the green smoothie revolution, and you are enjoying the pure nectar on a regular basis, you know how it makes you feel.

What if, though, your family is not joining you?

greensmoothieMy husband Emrys may even love them more than me. My daughter Ella, will have a whole blender full, if you turn your back, your breakfast is gone!
My son Benji started to be a little ‘something’ about the texture of his drinks. He would gobble down any variety of freshly juiced fruit and veg, but when it came to a green smoothie he would always try, and sometimes ask for a cup of it, but would never really have any.

So I kept making them, as did my husband. Three of us were drinking but one was not. I was not too worried because I thought “he eats such great food and if he does not get into green smoothies, the world would not end, would it?”
And then one day it happened!

Ella was ill and she did not have an appetite all day, so later on I asked her if she wanted a little soup or a green smoothie, she choose the smoothie. I then had the idea of having a smoothie soup and bingo, I thought “I will add more texture!’’
soup_broccoliSo Benji and Ella tucked into their green smoothie soups with finely chopped fruit salad on top.
Benji  then looked and me and said ‘’Mum, can I have some more please?’’ Benji had three helpings of soup!

It made me realise that we can have the knowledge to nourish and heal our families. But if we can take it easy, be patient, and offer life-giving foods, then they can heal themselves .


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