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HAPPY KIDS ARE BUSY KIDS! by Shannon Leone

Monday, May 4th, 2009 by Lisa

Sometimes being a raw mom feels like double-duty- doing everything on top of making everything we eat from scratch, and then trying to get our brood to eat it!  I can say from experience ‘been there done that’ so I can honestly say #1 IT GET’S EASIER and #2 IT’S TOTALLY WORTH IT! First of all, it pays of in so many ways: I literally haven’t had a sick child in YEARS!  They are both crazy active, and completely free of any health complaints.  Next, EMOTIONALLY it is the difference between night and day between raising a child on the Standard American Diet with an over emphasis on protein and cooked foods not to mention all the processed food like ‘pizza’ or worse, junk food which is mostly just chemicals as opposed to simple, natural, real food. Poor kids.  They get a bad attitude because they feel sooooo crappy, and then they get low grades in school and have socialization problems, and just cannot function properly.  It has happened that during holidays or other times when we would ‘fall off the wagon’ for a party or celebration, and naturally go overboard on sugar and cooked options, we all notice the difference immediately.  We all become agitated and restless and bored and moody- not natural for us usually.  In fact, its ridiculous how calm, caring and fun to be around both the kids are when their diet is excellent and we are all just enjoying life. By the way, Moms, this works best as a lifestyle and not just a diet per se.  So, ensuring enough exercise and outdoor time and enough rest/sleep and the right kind of stimulation out in Nature and not too much media, etc., makes a BIG difference too. The amazing thing to remember is that kids LOVE to help, to be involved and to participate in whatever is happening.  I have made it really clear that although I take-on most of the shopping and food prep, that I am not running a hotel or restaurant and their help is needed and appreciated.  It’s a family or team spirit to makes sure that Mom isn’t overworked or feeling really resentful and tired.  I consider children after the age of 5 to be great additions to the ‘workforce’ within the home.  A household just doesn’t run well with ONE PERSON doing all the work!  It isn’t fair or just, and no one would be able to feel good about it.  Having chores and looking after our home together is a bonding experience and a great skill to learn.  LAUNDRY, FOOD PREP, TIDYING, VACCUMING, SWEEPING, DUSTING, FILLING SPICE RACKS, everything is an opportunity to contribute and make a difference.  Let your family know all the different daily and weekly chores, and start asking for input from everyone on a regular basis.  Moms are precious and important too!  And kids whom are given real-life opportunities to contribute and be involved are proud of their efforts and feel good about themselves.

Introducing…

Monday, December 15th, 2008 by Shannon

Joseph Beausoleil. He was born Monday, November 17, 2008, exactly one day before his “due” date. My entire labor took less than 4 hours - fast and furious - we barely made it to the birth center in time! I’m happy to report that we are all healthy and doing well.

However, sorry for the late announcement, but this whole two-kids-thing is really kicking my butt! I thought I had this parenting thing down but I’ve been thrown a curve ball. Don’t get me wrong: my panic is still, for the most part, interspersed with moments of total bliss.

Baby Joseph (or, as we like to call him, “Joe-Beau”) is an absolute dream. He’s super easy-going and just as sweet as can be. His big brother, John, is just as sweet as can be too, always wanting to hold, kiss, and hug the baby. When the baby cries (which is rare), he rushes to comfort him. John doesn’t seem resentful or jealous towards the baby at all, which is such a relief.

John does get mad at me, however, and has been on a major emotional roller coaster: one minute, he’s his usual, laughing, clowning around self, the next in a puddle of gut-wrenching sobs of despair. Confused by these new feelings of sadness, he would come up to me and ask “what is happening to me, Mommy?” which, given my own plummeting hormones from having just given birth, would leave me bawling too, and wondering, what did I do to my beautifully happy child??

I’ve also had to revise my adamant philosophy to never let a baby/child cry it out, as I’ve only got two hands and it’s inevitable that both boys are sometimes going to need me at the same time. My boyfriend has been absolutely wonderful, stepping up 110%, but he’s still got to work during the day, and some hurts just require a mama’s touch. This has been a hard adjustment, trying to strike a balance between getting everyone’s needs met.

Sleeping has been another issue. I know this is almost universal, but we never had problems with my first baby (when it was just one, that is), but this time around, the sleeping arrangement is having a hard time working itself out. First, that whole sleep-when-the-baby-sleeps thing just doesn’t work when you’ve got a toddler to take care of. Then, Joe-Beau has been having some alert time in the middle of the night where he makes these adorable little cooing sounds. However, this was waking my older one up who would then cry and demand for “boob”, which would then set the baby off and, well, the whole tandem nursing thing has been awkward at best…. This has made for some pretty crazy-making nights.

So, I’ve been putting John to bed in another room (which he has, surprisingly, taken to quite well), and my boyfriend’s been sleeping on the couch since he knows that’s the only way he’ll get any sleep these days! So, for much of the night, it’s just me and the baby and one great, big, gigantic, king-sized bed. Sigh.

Things are getting easier by the day, however; the first two weeks were the hardest, but I do see us all slowly adjusting and am confident that we will soon hit our stride.

Nesting Mode Part Two

Tuesday, November 18th, 2008 by Shannon

Wow, I can’t believe it’s been a month since I posted. I am truly sorry for that. I apologize to myself as well as to you, dear readers, since writing for this blog is one of the few things I do just for myself, that gives me a sense of identity, and a lot of personal satisfaction. I’ve tried to keep my weekly postings a top priority as, for the reasons just stated, they really help to keep me grounded and happy. All I can say is, for the last month, I’ve been a bit distracted.

In my last post, I officially declared I was in nesting mode. I used the phrase in the sense that I planned to hole up in my “nest”, kick my feet up, relax, and ease into the final stretch before labor. Well, since then, in addition to my usual routine, I have managed to organize/host 4 parties, attend various meetings, have the kitchen and laundry room painted, and deal with one really scary emergency room trip with my son. Not to mention being completely consumed with all things Election…so much for relaxing!

There is another use of the phrase “nesting mode”, however, that refers to a sort of manic state some expecting women get into, to prepare the “nest” so to speak, for the new arrival. You know, where the mom-to-be gets on her hands and knees to scrub every inch of the floor with a toothbrush, or decides at 2AM she must defrost the freezer or organize all the baby clothes by color, or some such other obsessive-compulsive task.

Well, this didn’t happen at all for me with my first pregnancy (beyond just covering the basics), but this time, I am that crazy woman. I’ve been waking up in the middle of the night and organizing kitchen drawers, preparing meals for my son for two days out with explicit instructions, obsessively keeping on top of laundry, and reading and re-reading all the signs of labor to look for. Oh, and yes, folding and refolding all the baby clothes….My “to-do” list has always been a mile long, but suddenly, frantically, I feel panicked that I won’t get through it all before the baby comes. It’s really quite ridiculous! And all this has made it a wee bit difficult for me to prioritize.

On the flip-side, I feel great, people say I look great and can’t believe I’m “due” in a matter of days. If it weren’t for all the contractions (been having them for weeks now), I’d totally forget I was pregnant, and sometimes do anyway. I am trying to keep my mind off of it too, since my first baby was 12 days late, so I’m not holding my breath that this one will come on time. In fact, I am cherishing every moment I have with my son (and would actually welcome some extra time), as I know we will never have the same relationship again, where it’s just the two of us most of the time. I look forward, and with eager anticipation, to meeting the new baby and expanding our happy little family, but at the same time, a piece of me mourns the loss of the very special dynamic we have right now.

Now that the election is over, my bags are packed for the birthing center, thank you notes are written, the sky is not falling, and I don’t have too much left on my roster, I’m hoping I can finally kick back a bit…but then again, you never know ☺.

Officially in Nesting Mode: A Pregnancy Update

Monday, October 6th, 2008 by Shannon

I have to admit, I’ve been burning the candle at both ends lately. With back-to-back travel, home remodeling projects, taking care of my “boys” (big and small), maintaining the home, and keeping up with our regular activities, I’ve had very little time to take care of Number One. As a result, I’ve been a bit off balance lately and everything and everyone has suffered. I’ve been impatient with my son and my boyfriend, I’ve let my diet and exercise slip and, as a result, have been feeling less than great - sluggish, frazzled and defeated.

But, after a wee bit of a meltdown the other night, I made a declaration: “No More - I am officially in nesting mode!” I’ve enlisted the support of my wonderful boyfriend and friends and am ready for the homestretch (only 6 weeks to go!). I’m getting back on track with my diet and have taken two – yup, two – baths in a row!

I’ve also been consumed with Shannon’s manual “Raising Children Raises Us” the last few days which couldn’t have come at a more pertinent time: wouldn’t you know that a central point is how important it is to nourish yourself and your relationships and to continue to grow along with your children; that a woman unfulfilled, neglected and whose ‘well has run dry’ is incapable of properly giving and taking care of others. It’s so true, and yet so easy to forget. Not to mention “Raising Children Raises Us” is chock-full of amazing ideas and a refreshing and insightful approach to parenting!

On the physical side of things, I’m definitely getting more uncomfortable as I enter the final stretch: my sashay has turned into a waddle, my energy level has waned, and movements are slower and more difficult in general. Those maternity clothes aren’t looking so cute anymore either, and are making me look a bit more like a stuffed sausage! But I still get compliments, so I ‘spose it can’t be all that bad ☺.

Interestingly, my son has been a lot more needy lately – he must sense all this change is imminent – and has wanted to be held and to nurse a lot. Some of the “nursing agitation” I had in my first trimester has returned, although not as intensely (yet), but it’s still pretty painful and irritating; perhaps nature’s way of keeping it to a minimum since nipple stimulation can cause contractions and, if significant enough, can even bring on labor….

In other news, my boyfriend’s very lovely and generous family has decided to throw me a baby shower. I really didn’t expect one this time around and, especially since we are having another boy, we don’t really need anything. So, in keeping with my resolution to take better care of myself as well as my family, I’ve decided to “register” for some more practical things – like help with the laundry, dishes, spending time with my toddler, meals, etc. – now that would be priceless!

So, here I am, writing to you from my new king-sized bed – one babe sleeping peacefully beside me, the other tickling my ribs with his hiccups - taking deep breaths, and ready to take time to just enjoy the moment.

9 Tips for More Restful Pregnancy Sleep

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2008 by Shannon

About 6 months ago, I wrote about the benefits of co-sleeping and needing a bigger bed to accommodate my soon to be expanding family. Well, this family is finally getting its king-size bed! It will be delivered in a couple weeks - and not a moment too soon: with my ever-expanding belly and my toddler’s propensity to sleep horizontally across the bed, it’s only gotten more difficult to catch some good zzzz’s. While the bed will surely make a big difference, here are some other tips I’ve found really help to get some sound sleep during the often less-than-comfortable time of pregnancy.

1. Get sleep whenever you can. If you work, take a little catnap in your car on your lunch break, or if you’re at home with young kids like me, nap with them! Totally guilt free.

2. You are probably going to have to experiment with new sleeping positions, unless pre-pregnancy you always slept on your left side, and never moved. At some point, stomach sleeping will obviously get too uncomfortable, and it’s not advised that you sleep on your back as that can restrict blood flow to the fetus. Some women find a body pillow (I have friends who swear by ) helps them get comfortable, but, if you’re short on space like me, sometimes a pillow or two between the legs is all that’s needed.

3. Take a warm bath before bed or ask your husband for a massage to help relax the mind and the muscles.

4. Drink plenty of water during the day but not for several hours before going to bed to help avoid too many middle of the night trips to the bathroom.

5. Do not eat anything heavy for several hours before bed, but don’t go to bed hungry either. Eat something light – apples are good - an hour or so before bed. If heartburn is keeping you up, keep your head elevated with a couple pillows to prevent those gastric juices from coming up.

6. Get some exercise every day. Whether it’s prenatal yoga or hikes in nature or a little walking, regular exercise can really help to regulate and improve sleep quality.

7. Try relaxation techniques. I like to take a few moments to close my eyes and focus in on my belly, try to really connect with the baby growing within. I may daydream or say a little prayer. I visualize an easy birth and a healthy baby and happy family. This really helps to ease any anxiety I might be feeling. Deep breathing also helps to relax - during the visualization, or on its own.

8. Focus on the black. This one works for me within minutes every time! Close your eyes and look deep into the dark of the inside of your eyelids. Focusing only on the dark helps to shut all thoughts and images out, and you’ll be sawing logs before you know it!

9. Read a really boring book :)
Sweet Dreams! zzzzzzz

Breast Milk: It’s Not Just for Babies Anymore!

Friday, September 5th, 2008 by Shannon

By now, most people are familiar with the many ways in which breast milk benefits babies. For example, it provides unrivaled nutrition, immune-boosting antibodies, and healthy mother-child bonding, to name a few. However, the amazing properties of breast milk are farther reaching than that; in fact, there are dozens of practical uses, from which everyone can benefit – from cancer killer to decongestant – making it a true panacea.

Here is a list of some of the many uses of breast milk – warning: this is not for the super squeamish!

1. Diaper rash – squirt some mother’s milk on your little one’s bottom to soothe and heal.
2. Clogged tear ducts – it’s not uncommon for babies to get swollen, clogged eyes as their tear ducts are coming in; breast milk can help to unclog and get everything flowing properly.
3. Scrapes, burns, and other boo-boos – breast milk will disinfect and accelerate healing.
4. Acne – baby or adult, breast milk helps take the red out and clear up those annoying breakouts.
5. Red eyes – use it as eye drops! It takes the red out and soothes those tired, bloodshot, sleepless eyes.
6. Pink Eye (Conjunctivitis) – apply every few hours for a couple days to clear up nasty eye infections.
7. Puffy under-eyes – rub a few drops under the eyes to reduce unsightly bags – it works better than cucumber!
8. Make-up remover
– takes make-up right off! A great skin cleanser too.
9. Sore throat – gargling with breast milk can help soothe the sore throat of anyone willing to try it!
10. Ear infections/aches – Breastfeeding significantly lowers the incidence of ear infections in the first place, but if your child does happen to get one, putting a few drops in the ear can really help to ease the pain.
11. Cancer cure? It has been known for some time that breast milk offers protection from cancer: babies who are not breastfed are 9 times more likely to contract a childhood cancer than those who are breastfed. So, it shouldn’t come a surprise that a group of Swedish scientists stumbled upon the discovery that breast milk actually kills cancer cells – all kinds of cancer. Exposure to certain proteins in breast milk causes the cancer cells to commit suicide, while leaving healthy cells unharmed. This shines a very hopeful light indeed on potential future cancer treatments.
12. Bug bites/Poison Oak or Ivy/Chicken Pox
- use like calamine lotion to relieve the itch!
13. Chapped lips – pat a few drops onto those cracked, dry lips at night and wake up with a soft, supple kisser!
14. Sore, cracked nipples – soothe and heal painful nipples.
15. Nasal congestion – squirt a few drops in a stuffed nose and blow (or suction out for your little ones).
16. Sexual lubricant – Forget the astro-glide!
17. Mouthwash/Toothache – Breastfeeding prevents tooth decay. In fact, attempts to grow bacteria in breast milk in the lab - including that which causes tooth decay - have proved unsuccessful. Anyone willing to gargle with it should reap the benefits!
18. Eczema/Psoriasis/Dry Skin – Mother’s Milk does wonders for many skin conditions.
19. Mouth, Leg, and other Ulcers - Ditto

And last, but not least…….drum roll, please!

20. Coffee Creamer!
Don’t believe me? Then check out this video.

Okay, okay – so the last one is a joke, but it always gets me laughing!

So, dear readers, can you think of any other great uses for breast milk? I’d love to hear from you!

Why You Should Avoid Plastic Like the Plague and 10 Ways to Do It!

Friday, August 22nd, 2008 by Shannon

There are many reasons to avoid plastics. One major reason is bisphenol-A, or BPA, an estrogen-like chemical added to most polycarbonate plastics – from water bottles and food containers to the linings of tin cans, and - most alarmingly - to many baby toys, baby bottles and sippy cups. Research has shown BPA is associated with early puberty in girls, feminizing of boys, and reduced fertility in both sexes. In fact, in utero exposure is linked to abnormal development of the sex organs in the fetus. BPA is also associated with an increased risk for obesity and certain cancers, such as breast and prostate.

Certainly anyone with fertility issues or children should be very concerned. Luckily, it is fairly easy to find bisphenol-A free products now, for children and adults, but is that enough?

Before I became a mom, I led a fairly plastic-free life: I carried my own glass water bottle, brought my own bags to the grocery store, rarely ate out and rarely bought packaged foods, and stored everything in glass or ceramic containers. Now that I’ve got a toddler, however, I seem to be swimming in it; and I can only imagine that, with another little one on the way, it’s going to get worse.

Even if you manage to avoid buying any plastic items for your child, you are sure to be given tons! We are lucky in that most of the things our son has have been handed down from two cousins a year or two older than he. We’ve never had to buy any clothes, and many of his toys are hand-me-downs. However, the toys keep multiplying and – never mind those annoying battery-operated noise-makers - they are overwhelmingly made of plastic!

Besides the fact that plastic can never be truly safe (who knows what other compounds are leaching into the environment and our food), plastics leave a terrible footprint on the environment.

By now, you’ve probably all heard of the big, plastic stew brewing in a vortex in the ocean that is twice the size of Texas – a horrifying visualization and seemingly irreversible prospect; and it is frightening to think that every piece of plastic ever created is still with us. This has many repercussions, to name a few:

• While plastic is not biodegradable, it is photodegradable – sunlight breaks the plastic, still molecularly intact, into little bits which get mistaken for plankton and other food and is ingested by all forms of marine life. This is killing, disabling, and making sick so many of these animals.

• These plastics make it back into the human food chain as well: if you eat seafood, you not only have to worry about mercury, but also contamination from plastic.

• Plastics absorb other toxic substances, such as pesticides and PCB’s and then, transported by the water, leach them elsewhere.

Moreover, recycling plastic is not a viable solution since only a couple types of plastics melt at low temperatures; tougher plastics only melt at high temperatures and release such toxic gases, they are basically un-recyclable. Furthermore, of the recyclable plastics, the quality degrades and the plastics are contaminated with residues (foodstuffs, etc.) so they cannot be remade into food containers. Thus there is still the need for as much new plastic production for food containers.

So, now that you’re convinced it’s not enough to just seek out “safer” forms of plastics, what can we do to reduce the amount of plastic polluting our environment and our bodies? Here is a list of 10 tips to help avoid and reduce your use of plastic:

1. If you must buy bottled water, opt for glass options when available (Voss bottles come in glass in a couple sizes) or try to always come prepared – bring your own bottle of filtered water from home. Sometimes, this just isn’t practical, but consider which has the greater impact: occasionally drinking a glass of tap water or that plastic water bottle….

2. Store produce and leftovers in cloth bags or glass containers.

3. Not only can you bring your own cloth shopping bags, you can also re-use those plastic bags your produce comes in on subsequent shopping trips.

4. Wrap prepared lunches and snacks in wax paper.

5. Bamboo and stainless steel are excellent BPA and plastic-free options for sippy cups, eating utensils, and plates!

6. For gift-giving occasions, like birthdays and Christmas, often friends and relatives ask what you, or especially, your child would like or need. Don’t be afraid to ask for used and hand-me-down items. People will still give you/your child beautifully wrapped boxes of toxic delights – say thanks, gracefully, and accept the lovely thought. If it is not something your child is totally into, consider returning it, or if not, be sure to donate or pass down when the child is done with it!

7. Think long-term. Plastic really can be that miracle product that lasts a lifetime. Try to limit the plastic you get to durable things you will hang on to for a long time.

8. Buy in bulk (bring your own paper bags or re-use those plastic produce ones), and only bag produce when absolutely necessary.

9. If you eat take-out regularly, carry your own cutlery, and for the die-hard, consider bringing your own non-plastic to-go containers!

10. Turn scrap plastic into art projects with the kids! Think of creative ways to re-use plastic – perhaps build a colorful collage or sculpture – or try one of the many suggestions listed here.

Can you think of more ways to reduce our plastic use? Please let me know!

10 Reasons Pregnant Women Should Eat More Figs!

Saturday, August 16th, 2008 by Shannon

Figs are one of the oldest cultivated fruits around, dating back to at least 5,000 B.C. Revered since ancient times for their aphrodisiac properties, in many cultures figs are considered a symbol of fertility: split apart, they are said to resemble the female genitalia, left whole, the male genitalia. In fact, the Ancients thought the milky-white substance (actually a natural latex) which drips from the cut stem represented the “universal energy” and it was used to treat infertility and promote healthy lactation. However, there seems to be some truth to the lore. Here are ten fascinating facts about these nutritional powerhouses that make them an incredible addition to anyone’s diet, but particularly to the pregnant woman’s.

1. Figs have a higher overall mineral profile than any other common fruit or vegetable. They are particularly high in calcium, iron, potassium, and zinc, key nutrients for a healthy pregnancy.

2. The high potassium content of figs may help to control blood pressure and therefore, the hypertension associated with preeclampsia, a dangerous pregnancy condition.

3. The mineral content of figs closely resembles that of human breast milk!

4. Figs have the highest fiber content of any common fruit. Rich in both insoluble and soluble fiber, figs really help to mitigate the constipation so common during pregnancy.

5. Figs contain a proteolytic enzyme that also aids in digestion, which is naturally slowed during pregnancy.

6. Figs are highly alkaline, and therefore alkalizing, which has been shown to help curb cravings. This may help control those less-than-healthy urges that can sabotage a healthy pregnancy diet.

7. Figs are high in vitamin B6, which has long been thought to be beneficial in alleviating morning sickness.

8. Even the leaves of figs are therapeutic: ingesting them has been shown to reduce and even eliminate the need for insulin in diabetic patients. Therefore, ingesting them may help to control or avoid a case of gestational diabetes. Furthermore, this ability to balance blood sugar levels should help to relieve a whole host of symptoms – from morning sickness to mood swings.

9. Dried figs contain significant amounts of Omega-3 fatty acids, which are essential to the optimal development of the fetus. Consuming ample Omega-3’s during pregnancy is also associated with a lower incidence of pre-term labor and premature delivery.

10. Psoralens, a chemical found in figs, has been used to treat many skin pigmentation problems and may be beneficial in preventing melasma, the “mask of pregnancy”.

So now that you’re convinced of the amazing nutritional power of figs…what are the best ways to eat them?

Figs are harvested in the U.S. from June to September, but dried figs are available all year long. I think figs are delicious as is, but they are also a wonderful addition to smoothies and salads: blend a handful of figs with a cup of almond milk and a large, ripe banana, for a thick, rich, and creamy “shake”; or throw some chopped figs on a bed of arugula and fennel and lightly drizzle with balsamic vinegar….the possibilities are endless. But, in my opinion, the BEST way to eat a fig is straight from the tree, warmed by the sun. Mmmm.

How do you like your figs?

Opposites Attract: The SELNAS method for gender selection

Monday, August 11th, 2008 by Shannon

A couple weeks ago I announced that I was having another boy. This came as a big surprise ‘cause we all had a “hunch” that I was carrying a girl. Of course this hunch was based on a lot of Old Wives tales and other amusing, yet unscientific, methods of gender prediction…but it got me thinking: is there a natural way to influence the sex of your baby? In other words, can you in fact choose to have either a boy or a girl?

Baby ShoesApparently you can by using the SELNAS Natural Gender Selection Technique.

Although relatively new (it was invented in 1985), the SELNAS method is purported to be the most accurate natural method for gender selection to date, and with the “science” to back it up. (I put “science” in quotes as some of it’s opponents say it is pseudoscience at best…).

According to SELNAS USA/BabyChoice.com, in 1933, two Russian Scientists, Koltzoff and Schroeder, discovered that it was possible to differentiate x-chromosome sperm from y-chromosome sperm by the electrical charge they emitted.

Later, scientists discovered the ovum also gives off an electrical charge. Since the charges of x-sperm (-) and y-sperm (+) are invariable, and one of the fundamental laws of electricity states that while opposite charges attract, like charges repel, how can it be, then, that an ovule is able to attract both x- and y- sperm, which have different charges? It was concluded that the ovule must be capable of alternating its charge so as to attract x-bearing chromosomes at one time, and y-bearing chromosomes at another.

This discovery had huge ramifications in terms of gender selection/prediction if a pattern to the highly irregular charge put off by the ovule could be found. In 1994, the culmination of a 15-year study by a French Scientist on thousands of mammals resulted in a complicated method for determining just this.

From these findings, elaborate software was created to interpret the data (based on a woman’s birth date, blood type, onset of menses, reproductive history, and last menstrual period, combined with the variables found on the mammalian study) to determine which days in a woman’s cycle would produce an ovule charge favorable to attracting either a boy-sperm or a girl-sperm.

It was determined that, over a 12-month period, each woman has between 70 and 80 days where the ovule attracts each polarity. This information used in conjunction with knowing her fertile days and when she ovulates allows her to choose the gender by either having sex or not having sex on the days that correspond to the gender she desires.

This software, which came to be known as the SELNAS method, was tested on 155 couples over the next two years and proved to be 98.7% accurate! 153 of the 155 couples conceived the gender they wanted.

As of 1999, the success rate of the SELNAS method, tested on over 15,000 couples, continued to be between 96 and 98% accurate!

A 12-month personalized calendar is not cheap - costing around $400 - but it comes with a 100% money-back guarantee if following this method does not produce the gender of your choice. A virtual no-risk and small price to pay if the sex of your baby is very important to you.

Statistically, if you’ve had 2 children of the same sex (like me), you are more likely to have subsequent children of that sex as well. Although it would be lovely to have a little girl (and a little more balance to our household), I’m not sure how I feel about manipulating the baby-making process to produce a certain gender; if the SELNAS method does in fact work, even though it is a non-invasive and “natural” method, there’s still something a bit creepy feeling to me about it….

How do you feel about it? Would you use the SELNAS method if it guaranteed the bambino/a of your choice? If you do try it out, let me know if it worked!

Dust off those Stilettos! 7 Ways to Channel your Inner Sex Kitten

Monday, July 21st, 2008 by Shannon

Have you traded in your fishnets for sweats? Swapped those lacy thongs for granny pants? Being a mom is more than a full time job – and often a dirty, grimy, sweaty one at that - it’s easy to lose touch with your more sensual side. Perhaps it got buried under a heap of laundry. Or a pile of dishes. Or maybe that stack of bills.Next time you’ve got a night off from the kids (or if they sleep really soundly), pounce on the situation!The following tips will help you find that inner sex goddess. Here, kitty kitty….

1. Get Into Character. The first step to bringing out the sex goddess within is to start thinking like one. Step out of Mommy mode and into Vixen! For inspiration, take lessons from the Masters (er, make that Mistresses):Rita Hayworth, Brigitte Bardot, Sophia Loren

2. Whet his appetite. Whip up a bowl of something sensual - perhaps some succulent figs or lush, red strawberries – the list is endless (See “Raw Foods that Put You in the Mood” for more ideas). Sit on your man’s lap and feed them to him, seductively.

3. Set The Mood. Tidy up your bedroom before hand – it does no good to be tripping over those sweatpants, or toy train sets for that matter. Put your most luxurious sheets on the bed and lightly mist with vanilla scent. Light some candles or drape warm-colored scarves over the lamps. Perhaps tie some long scarves to the bedposts to use later on your man if you’re feeling really randy!

4. Take Turns with a Sensual Massage. Mix a few drops of vanilla essential oil (a natural aphrodisiac) with some virgin coconut butter for a sexy massage oil.

5. Perform a Strip Tease. This is where those stilettos come in handy… and ditch those granny pants for some sexy lingerie, or better yet, indulge yourself in a new set – you deserve it! If Rita, Brigitte, and Sophia (See #1) didn’t give you enough inspiration, check out this excellent and informative article on “How to Perform a Striptease!” Pick a song you can really get into.Some of my faves are:“Suzie Q” by Credence Clearwater Revival, “10 Seconds to Love” by Motley Crue, “Girls on Film” by Duran Duran What are some of your favorites?

6. Try Something New. Tired of the same-ole missionary, woman-on-top, and from behind positions? Try changing things up a bit. Perhaps in a chair or standing up. For tons more ideas on how to spice things up, check out “500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets”.

7. Play a Game. An adult game for once! Check out “100 Great Sex Games For Couples” for lots of fun and exciting ways that will ignite your passions and leave you both purring for days….It may seem ironic that, at 5 months pregnant, I am writing about being a sex kitten. Admittedly, I look utterly ridiculous in fishnets and sexy lingerie right now; and wearing stilettos is downright dangerous while pregnant – if I don’t break my neck, I could fall flat on my arse - and that would be really funny! BUT, hey, sexy is the mood we’re going for, not comedic…. ;)However, pregnancy is one of those times I feel most sensual. There’s not much sexier than the ample bosom, swollen belly, and womanly curves of a pregnant woman, if you ask me. No props necessary.

What do YOU do to bring out your sexy best??


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