Comments on: Party Success http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104 Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:34:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1.2 hourly 1 By: Shannon http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104/cpage/1#comment-122 Shannon Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:14:03 +0000 http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104#comment-122 I can imagine how hard that felt for you- My heart feeeels your concern- and it gets easier, you just have to have Faith- in this precious soul who you were chosen by to be his Guardian, and faith in the love and foundation you are providing which has a wholesome diet which is a cornerstone, and Faith in his Angels and destiny which have nothing to do with you so you can breathe deep and enjoy it all more. I used to care for a 3 year young girl who was severely autistic- who is now a teenager, actually 21, and she has outgrown what was a devestating situation of no talking only grunts, eating bugs, not registering heat on a stove element, etc etc Oh gosh, I recal an incident where I stood on the counters and started hurling all the canned and packaged food-stuff from the kitchen cupboards (I was the live-in Nanny for this family) and told her shocked parents that they had hired me to take care of her and I was going to do that without being sabotaged by her diet which is exascerbating the problem! The father was soooo mad at that moment, but to this day, he swears I 'saved' his daughter. Her mom STILL worries constantly about her, yet she is more outgoing and confident than her other 5 siblings! Her mom loves talking with me because I always see her daughters' special gifts and even had her live with my family for a year when she was 19 and having issues...EVERYONE has issues, some just control/hide them better. She's not so different when you have that perspective. Btw, When my boys talk very loudly which is often in their excitement, I make sure I am paying attention, looking into their eyes, and smile and let them know "I can hear you, you don't have to yell, I am listening" and they then can tune into me, which teaches them how to connect, and if they are still so out of body excited I raise my voice to match theirs and say- "WE CAN TALK WITHOUT YELLING AND STILL HEAR EACH OTHER, OK, LET'S TRY" and then I calmly demonstrate another level which is quieter. It takes time, but it is a skill to modulate our voices to match a situation, and even if it takes a year or two to learn it, he will have it for life! Continue your awesome commitment and enjoy your unique and lively son. blessings! Shannon I can imagine how hard that felt for you- My heart feeeels your concern- and it gets easier, you just have to have Faith- in this precious soul who you were chosen by to be his Guardian, and faith in the love and foundation you are providing which has a wholesome diet which is a cornerstone, and Faith in his Angels and destiny which have nothing to do with you so you can breathe deep and enjoy it all more.
I used to care for a 3 year young girl who was severely autistic- who is now a teenager, actually 21, and she has outgrown what was a devestating situation of no talking only grunts, eating bugs, not registering heat on a stove element, etc etc Oh gosh, I recal an incident where I stood on the counters and started hurling all the canned and packaged food-stuff from the kitchen cupboards (I was the live-in Nanny for this family) and told her shocked parents that they had hired me to take care of her and I was going to do that without being sabotaged by her diet which is exascerbating the problem! The father was soooo mad at that moment, but to this day, he swears I ’saved’ his daughter. Her mom STILL worries constantly about her, yet she is more outgoing and confident than her other 5 siblings! Her mom loves talking with me because I always see her daughters’ special gifts and even had her live with my family for a year when she was 19 and having issues…EVERYONE has issues, some just control/hide them better. She’s not so different when you have that perspective.
Btw, When my boys talk very loudly which is often in their excitement, I make sure I am paying attention, looking into their eyes, and smile and let them know “I can hear you, you don’t have to yell, I am listening” and they then can tune into me, which teaches them how to connect, and if they are still so out of body excited I raise my voice to match theirs and say- “WE CAN TALK WITHOUT YELLING AND STILL HEAR EACH OTHER, OK, LET’S TRY” and then I calmly demonstrate another level which is quieter.
It takes time, but it is a skill to modulate our voices to match a situation, and even if it takes a year or two to learn it, he will have it for life!
Continue your awesome commitment and enjoy your unique and lively son.
blessings!
Shannon

]]> By: Joanne http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104/cpage/1#comment-121 Joanne Sun, 30 Mar 2008 07:05:52 +0000 http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104#comment-121 Stephani, what a beautiful story. I, too, have fears about how my girls will go when they're older and on their own at events, but having watched them at other parties they seem naturally to head for the healthier options (usually). At their own party last year they planted themselves in front of the huge fruit platter and tucked in for a good half hour! I can only hope that my 'training' will help them make good decisions when they're out there on their own. Thanks for sharing such a positive story. Love Jo Stephani, what a beautiful story. I, too, have fears about how my girls will go when they’re older and on their own at events, but having watched them at other parties they seem naturally to head for the healthier options (usually). At their own party last year they planted themselves in front of the huge fruit platter and tucked in for a good half hour! I can only hope that my ‘training’ will help them make good decisions when they’re out there on their own. Thanks for sharing such a positive story.

Love Jo

]]> By: Robert Michel http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104/cpage/1#comment-120 Robert Michel Sun, 30 Mar 2008 02:00:33 +0000 http://www.rawmom.com/raw-mom-blog/archives/104#comment-120 I just stopped by your blog and thought I would say hello. I like your site design. Looking forward to reading more down the road. Robert Michel I just stopped by your blog and thought I would say hello. I like your site design. Looking forward to reading more down the road.

Robert Michel

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